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AIBU?

To be pissed off with my mum?

18 replies

FlowersAndShit · 16/02/2016 09:32

My mum agreed to help me put my new curtains up. She picked me up after work to go to hers to have dinner and then come back to mine to put the curtains up.

So after she made dinner my stepdad and her fucked off to the pub across the road. She said she'd only be 30 minutes. 3 hours later, she came back pissed. When I asked why she didn't come back all I got was "I'm 52 and I work full time". She kept saying her friends kept buying her drinks.

I had no way of contacting her (I left my mobile at home as I thought I'd only be an hour), plus my cat needed feeding. I didn't fancy walking home as it's bitterly cold and it was dark, had no money for a taxi.

I ended up having to stay over, with my mother drunk sleepwalking naked into my room thinking it was the fucking toilet.

AIBU?

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jusdepamplemousse · 16/02/2016 09:36

No YANBU.

Sounds extremely irritating at best and horribly upsetting at worst.

Hope you're ok.

Does she have form for this behaviour?

infife · 16/02/2016 09:37

I'd be pissed off too.

Is she always an irresponsible selfish lush, or was she just not used to drinking that much, and was just letting her hair down?

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 16/02/2016 09:52

YANBU I hope she apologises.

FlowersAndShit · 16/02/2016 10:48

She's apologised and yes she has form for this behaviour. It just makes me realise that I have nobody in this world that genuinely cares about me and nobody gives a shit about how it makes me feel.

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AutumnLeavesArePretty · 16/02/2016 11:14

Bit rubbish for breaking a promise but tbh I'd have been a little at having to help an adult slip a pair of curtains onto a pole. It literally takes minutes.

BillSykesDog · 16/02/2016 11:24

Do you think she has a drink problem? Sounds like it. What does her partner think? Could you try talking to Al-Anon? They help relatives of people with drink problems.

ceebie · 16/02/2016 13:18

On the other hand, she works full time, then had to pick you up from work, then made you dinner - she was going out of her way a lot for you wasn't she?

If she was doing you a favour, why were you not making dinner for her at your house?

Also, if she was supposed to be driving you to your house, then surely going to the pub at all was an indication that that wasn't going to happen?

Why do you need help to put up curtains in the first place?

Also, if she was in the pub across the road, you hardly needed a mobile to contact her - you could have walked across the road to talk to her?

ceebie · 16/02/2016 13:22

How old are you? It does sound a little like it's all about you, expecting to be picked up, made dinner, driven home, and helped with curtains.

SalemSaberhagen · 16/02/2016 13:24

Bit harsh ceebie. Presumably her DM offered to make her dinner first. She had made arrangements, she shouldn't have broken them.

Surely it doesn't matter why OP needs help with the curtains? Her DM said she would help and then didn't.

Polgara25 · 16/02/2016 13:24

My mother does stuff like this -offers to help and the help always involves dinner at her place at some point. Which she thinks is doing me a huge favour - it's not; she just wants someone to get drunk with and/or play the gracious hostess while putting me down.

I just don't accept offers of help anymore.

SalemSaberhagen · 16/02/2016 13:25

Where is the expectation ceebie?! I can't see it at all. We have no idea how OP made these plans with her DM.

Polgara25 · 16/02/2016 13:26

Always was meant to be in italics.....

FlowersAndShit · 16/02/2016 13:36

They both have a bit of a drink problem. My mother offered to pick me up after work and have dinner with heras we both needed to buy some shopping. I often give her money or buy them shopping if they are skint.

The curtains are really heavy, lined and those fiddley pencil pleat ones. I don't want to mess them up so I asked her to help.

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FlowersAndShit · 16/02/2016 13:38

Oh and I ended up eating dinner by myself whilst they went over to the pub

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Polgara25 · 16/02/2016 13:41

Sounds like mine - you have my sympathies.

Only advice I can give is to see her in small doses and don't expect any serious offers of help.

FlowersAndShit · 16/02/2016 13:51

That's difficult because she's the only person I have

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Polgara25 · 16/02/2016 14:04

No DP, no friends? I really feel for you if that is the case.

CooPie10 · 16/02/2016 14:12

If she was across the road why didn't you go ask her if she's still going to help you? You knew where she was.

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