To ask if hyperemesis always happen in next pregnancy?

(22 Posts)
Abbinob Mon 18-Jan-16 21:59:55

I feel guilty even asking this.
About 10 months ago I had a termination at 12 weeks due to having such bad sickness I could barely get out of bed to look after DS who was 1.5 at the time.
Couldn't make him dinner without throwing up in the kitchen, could barely keep my head up to play/watch him and it basically just didn't seem fair to him at all. I do regret my decision a bit and would now really like to try for another but that doe make me feel quite guilty.
I had no major sickness with first pregnancy so no idea why I did in the second and am I ikely to have it again?
I wouldn't terminate for those reasons again, it was unplanned and everything just seemed wrong. But would just like to know if its likely to happen again

SexDrugsAndSausageRoll Mon 18-Jan-16 22:03:05

I had it in one pregnancy, in and out of hospital with iv rehydration, premature birth... The works. Next one wasn't sick once! Both girls too... So it's possible x

seasidesally Mon 18-Jan-16 22:07:07

no,first had it with twin boys was awful,then another boy had a really good pregnancy only was sick approx twice

seasidesally Mon 18-Jan-16 22:09:01

there are things that may help if you get it again,acupuncture/hypnosis/medication

fluffywhitekittens Mon 18-Jan-16 22:10:41

It's statistically very possible, however it's possible to prepare for HG and reduce the problem with pre emptive treatment and meds. Pregnancy sickness support charity will have lots of helpful information, there's also a HG support group on Mumsnet and Facebook. Sometimes just knowing that other people are going through/have gone through the same things can really help.
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Mon 18-Jan-16 22:13:27

I had HG flat out til 20 weeks with all 5 of mine!

Missdread Mon 18-Jan-16 22:14:09

Please don't feel guilty. What you went through was hell and my mild sickness with my DCs was enough for me to want to throw in the towel a few times. I know a few people who have had it once and then not again in the next pregnancy. I also know from the advice that a friend was given that the earlier you take the anti-emetics if you are really poorly, the better and the far greater chance that they'll work .For this reason it's maybe worth letting your GP know you're thinking of TTC so they can get ready to prescribe you the proper stuff and not fob you off with the "have you tried ginger biscuits?" line... All the very best of luck :-)

PandasRock Mon 18-Jan-16 22:15:32

I had hyperemesis with my first 2 dc, but not with my third.

IamCarcass Mon 18-Jan-16 22:16:10

Had it terribly first, not in the second. The weirdness of bodies. Don't feel guilty hyperemesis is horrid.

openthecurtains Mon 18-Jan-16 22:16:36

Had it from 6 weeks to delivery with both of mine. It was slightly better the second time, possibly because medication was started a little earlier. Got sterilised after DC2 though as I can't face it again.

SexDrugsAndSausageRoll Mon 18-Jan-16 22:19:18

Ginger biscuits..., at 29 weeks after unrelenting hg and four hospital stints my GP told me when she was pregnant she went to work with a bowl and refused to write a sick note. Only one I'd asked for in my life!

misskatamari Mon 18-Jan-16 22:23:36

I had it with both of mine but much much worse in my first. I couldn't function. When I got pregnant for the second time I went to the gp straight away and got tablets to help and I saw an acupuncturist from early on too. It was still grim but i coped with it a lot better than when I was pregnant for the first time.

It's definitely possible that you won't suffer as badly again. I would make sure to seek support asap though if you were to get pregnant again as hopefully you could take something to help deal with it

pengy83 Mon 18-Jan-16 22:27:54

HG is absolutely horrendous and mine didn't go straight after delivery neither! However I only had it with my first pregnancy. I had sickness for 9 months with my other 2 but it wasn't HG and was completely copeable. No rhyme nor reason x

Abbinob Mon 18-Jan-16 23:36:13

Peppermint tea and ginger biscuits grin the emergency doctor suggested that, even the mention made me sick.
Fortunately my gp was really good when I eventually went so I imagine if I go early he'd give me anti sickness tablets straight away to take if I feel similar, I still have a cupboard full blush
I feel like if im at least expecting it as a possibility and choosing to take the risk it will seem at least a little better but its awful isnt it, I didn't even know it existed I thought I was dying or something.
DS is a little older now so that should make things easier too and he has nursery in the mornings.
Trying to change his nappies was impossible I'd have to stop half way to throw up it just didn't seem fair on him at all poor thing sad

Salmiak Mon 18-Jan-16 23:48:50

With dd I had hg, but was controlled by medication

I then got pregnant when she was nearly 2 - had hg again and the meds didn't work as well, but then I had a toddler look after too so couldn't spend all day sleeping. I miscarried at 11 weeks and felt such relief because the sicknes instantly disappeared.

It took another year before I felt I had all the support in place to try again. Dd was 3 and I spent a considerable chunk of the 9 months in hospital on a drip whilst she was looked after at nursery, by dh, we got an au pair and juggled friends and family to help out as well. I felt immense guilt as she basically lost me being an active part of her life for that time.

However, ds is now 2 and dd adores being an older sister, and I can now breathe and say it was all worth it. Ds is awesome.

Financially, bedroom wise, emotionally we are ready to have another dc, but dh and I have decided that our family is now complete as I just can't risk the hell of another hg pregnancy

NeedsAsockamnesty Tue 19-Jan-16 00:04:18

Over the years I've had HG with every single one of mine, in my first until I was in hospital in a ICU ward I was just treated like a silly little girl who was winging about normal morning sickness the next one I spent almost the entire pregnancy in hospital.

Nowadays understanding and availible treatment is much better than it used to be so the real dangerous risks like coma,organ failure or rupture are incredibly rare.

I know I get it every single time but that does not mean it will be as bad or as badly managed.

Just over a year ago I had a TOP that I would not have had if it were not for HG BUT it is blatently obvious that it was because it was mismanaged and I did not realise I was pregnant as early as I could have done.

The way it works for me is (this is the easiest way I can explain it) it always hits really early usually around 4/5 weeks and if it's not treated early enough or aggressively enough it becomes very hard to control and tends to be more sever but if treated correctly (for me) it can be coped with,the symptoms never really go for the entire pregnancy but it can mean the difference between dire results and only a handful of short admissions.

After last year my consultant put together a care plan with very clear and precise instructions about what meds should be used and in what form they are given starting with the normal tablet cyclazine at first indication of pregnancy switching straight to injectables if I still puke more than a certain amount of times each day or if I lose a certain amount of weight if that does not reduce the ill effects it's straight to the one that's known to usually be the most effective but normally very hard to get prescribed,combined with refereral to him and EPU. This plan was put in place as a precaution with little to no intention to try again.

This plan is now in action grin it's early days but so far it's working granted I still feel almost sea sick loads but it's nothing like as awful as any of my previous experances.

IMO it's worth getting your GP to see if a plan like that would be an option for you

Pobspits Tue 19-Jan-16 00:08:48

I had severe HG in my first pregnancy - for the whole pregnancy from 7/8 weeks I was sick 25+ times a day. It was horrific.

Waited until ds was nearly 3 to try again and it wasn't nearly as bad. I was still sick every day just about but nothing like first time round.

I think statistically the chances are very high of it repeating itself tbh.

SexDrugsAndSausageRoll Tue 19-Jan-16 09:42:50

Bad to admit...I once threw up all over ds during nappy changing. We were in shock together...interesting he potty training himself soon after

Hoppinggreen Tue 19-Jan-16 10:25:15

I was very sick with DD, lost around 2 stone in weight but with DS I just lost my appetite a bit

Brightnorthernlights Tue 19-Jan-16 10:34:04

I think it's really hard to predict. First pregnancy was so bad I was signed off work at 10 weeks, spent most of the pregnancy on a drip in hospital. Second pregnancy ( with a big gap!), I had all the support in place, care plan, childcare & flexi working DH....none of it was needed! Pregnancy was a breeze, felt great throughout. You just can't predict, though I would say if you are going to suffer HG, it does tend to hit early.

Booboostwo Tue 19-Jan-16 10:44:44

I had mild HG with both pregnancies but nonetheless it was quite debilitating. I couldn't eat, even water was a problem at times, although I rarely vomited I felt sick all the time, everyday things like brushing teeth and kissing DH were impossible. Looking after DD when pregnant with DS made things a lot more difficult, so I really sympathise with you.

There is a chance that your next pregnancy will bring on HG, I don't think you should ignore that, but perhaps it would be helpful to find a knowledgeable, supportive doctor before you ever TTC. I know some people on the HG thread start meds while TTC and this can help with the severity of the symptoms. Have you been on the HG thread? Perhaps they could suggest a good doctor near you.

SirRodneyEffing Tue 19-Jan-16 13:15:07

I had terrible sickness with first pregnancy. GP said it was a possible sign of Down's syndrome or twins... It turned out to be lovely twins.

Second time around I had a singleton and nowhere near as poorly. Hooray!

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