Ok this is going to sound really bizarre so bear with me.
When I was younger I had a friend I was immensely close to- like sisters really. I don't have a lot of family so friends are very important to me. Anyway we were friends for about 5-6 years and then suddenly I got dropped like a stone. I was totally and utterly hearbroken. For ages. Eventually I got over it, but it took a long time.
Fast forward a good 10 years later, and we've now got back in touch- she's apologised for what she did back the -she had some mental issues at the time and cut a lot of people off it seems.
We've been getting closer again these last few months, and stupidly I've let myself get v emotionally invested in her again- against my better judgement. She seems to have this effect on me, and I can't help it.
And now I'm struggling with a few issues. She tends to blow hot and cold at times, and this flares up the old feelings I had before - and I keep thinking I'm going to get dropped again. Also I feel I'm giving far more to the friendship than she is, and it's frustrating.
I tell myself to take a step back, but I can't seem to do it- she says jump and I'm all how high?! She is actually a v nice person really but I'm scared she's going to be hurt again- and maybe I'm being used and can't see it. I'm so confused.
I don't want to lose her friendship for the 2nd time in my life because we really do get on so well and grew up together - but also is it doing me more harm than good?!
Oh it's a mess and it's proper stressing me out - Help wise people
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Imknackeredzzz · 18/01/2016 10:19
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