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I have a work colleague who started here perhaps October time. She seemed nice at first, perhaps a little cagey but yknow, some people are when they first start. I asked questions and tried to strike up a conversation but after the first few weeks she would give short sharp replies - not just in what she said but HOW she said it. She was drinking soya milk and I mentioned oh, you can get a chocolate one that's quite nice "I dont like chocolate" Oh ok. And other such instances where I ended up thinking well I won't bother if thats her attitude. I would be civil and "Hi X" as she walked through the office but wouldn't engage in conversation with her.
She has been like this with a few other colleagues but certain ones, my god, she is ALL over them. Like really engaging and having a laugh with some and yet others, myself included, would be dead if looks could kill.
I have brushed off the short replies and thought, oh sod it. But a few weeks back, I asked when a client was visiting, as I was busy, would she mind collecting their lunch at the allotted time if I was still snowed under (She was sitting in the meeting but was just observing rather than being an integral part) She said it was fine. I asked her approx 1.5hrs in advance of that time. When the time rolled around, I politely knocked on the door and said "X, as I am still busy, are you ok to collect the lunches?" She gave me look as though I had just asked her to lick shit off my shoe and got up, huffed and stomped off out. I felt quite embarrassed and shown up by her attitude. The following day I spoke to the manager who was in the meeting with her who advised she had noticed the attitude (and that this person is often short and abrupt with her too but she thought it could just be because she is her manager) and would have a word.
Fast forward to the Christmas Do. She sat there arms folded, refused to engage with anyone and you may aswell swallow arsenic if you had tried to. My general manager did and was met with quite rude, uncalled for replies.
I have tried several times to engage in conversation with her when there has been a group conversation but I was aswell speak to the wall as she pretty much ignores me or any responses I get are short/abrupt/rude.
Other colleagues have observed this.
Today. We have milk delivered to work. The communal drinks round has been done. A colleague asked would I like a drink (we arent in the drinks round) and I said yes please. X comes in the kitchen and says "Oh is that all the milk we have left" I called "If theres not a lot of milk, let me know and I'll call the milkman to see where the delivery is" A minute later she walked past with milk in a beaker. Other colleague comes out of the kitchen and says Im sorry, X has just taken most of the milk.
I sent a quick email round to the effect of "If you notice there isnt much milk, and there's no milk outside, please let me know and I'll find out where the milkman is"
I then popped downstairs to speak to the person who has made the communal drinks round as he is also relatively new to the company. X then says "Well isnt the shop open" (there's a cafe up the road) I said well they close at 3. X looked at watch and says well it's 2.55. I said no its ok, leave it, I've called the milkman. X then says no, i'll go and get some milk because we'll want a round later. I repeated I had called the milkman but she ignored me so I went back to my desk. A few minutes later, another colleague calls and says the milk is now outside. I popped to collect it and said "X, I wasn't being funny saying not to bother getting milk, I had called the milkman and didnt want you wasting your money" X then said, well you didnt say the milkman was coming, just that you had called him. I said, well no, I didnt get chance to say it, plus I was waiting for a call back. Again, the way in which she said it has infuriated me. She speaks to me like I am a piece of shit on her shoe.
I try to be friendly with all work colleagues, even those who from time to time I disagree with because at the end of the day, we work together.
I am fed up of feeling like I am subordinate to X and spoken to in the way X does to me. When I came back to my desk I was shaking I was so angry.
AIBU to raise it with the manager I raised it with before?
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fuckinglividnow · 15/01/2016 15:27
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