Dd is 8. She's definitely quirky , loves reading, loves making people laugh, wicked comic timing which she'd had ever since she could talk basically. It has always been apparent that whilst she has friends and is popular both at school and with friends at church, she also sometimes has been on the receiving end of rather unpleasant behaviour from so called friends of the 'we don't like you, you can't play' variety. We have always encouraged her to be honest with us about this but also to be robust and not feel she has to change herself to make people like her. I think she has reasonable self esteem but it's also definitely quite fragile and I keep a close eye on this.
Which is why I felt absolutely furious and upset on her behalf today when after school club told me they had found a piece of paper with 'We hate NL's dd' written on it. I don't think that was all that was on it but that's the bit the told me about. They had, quite rightly, taken it to the school to deal with as it appeared it was produced in school time (Two wet playtimes today has bred much trouble I think). They also spoke to the parents of the child who had this as well as to the child, making it clear it was unacceptable. I haven't asked dd about it but she spontaneously told me this evening after getting upset. Apparently they set up a 'we hate NL's dd' club today.
I know school will deal with this. I have faith in their intentions and their ability to manage this and thankfully dd is supported not only by dh and I but also by her two big sisters who she adores and who are more than capable of making her feel brilliant. I am also very grateful that after school club were vigilant and pro-active. But still, I feel wretched that she has had this happen and just need to vent. AIBU to think that bullying is just truly awful, no matter the age of the child involved.
Btw I have some lovely RL friends who either definitely or possibly know my name here. If you're reading this, don't worry. all will be ok and no need to talk about it in RL. I'll only get worked up and upset. This is my coping mechanism Just couldn't be bothered to look up my password and namechange
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NorthernLurker · 07/01/2016 19:54
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