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to be pissed off that DDs nursery stole my ideas?

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harrietflies Wed 16-Dec-15 23:04:15

DD attends a local nursery school which uses an online learning journey app to communicate between nursery and home. DD hasn't yet spoken there (she started in September) so, after discussion with her teacher, I started adding regular updates of what we'd been doing at home as a conversation starting point.

Within the first week of doing this, DDs teacher said what a good idea something I'd done was and laughed as she said 'I might have to steal that.' Since then, several things we've done at home (that aren't your standard activities or ones that pop up online) happen to appear in nursery a day or two later. To be honest I didn't mind too much, as I thought it might help DD to be more comfortable if activities were familiar.

However, a fortnight ago nursery got the call from Ofsted and on the day they inspected the nursery they had four activities I'd done that week with DD out - exact copies . Today they announced they received an 'outstanding' grade and the report specifically mentions the 'imagination of the staff' to come up with such 'unique and original ideas to thoroughly engage and inspire the children.' AIBU to feel pissed off and a bit used?

Iguessyourestuckwithme Wed 16-Dec-15 23:06:11

What are the activities. Are you sure that 39 professional women didn't come up with an idea/have experience of what you said and have just rejuvenated it

TrollTheRespawnJeremy Wed 16-Dec-15 23:07:30

Well, the nursery didn't have to use the foresight to recognise a good idea when they saw it so it is good that they have adapted.

If you don't work there then you can't get the kudos from the council.
Well done, you've improved a nursery for numerous children. That in itself is an acheivement

TheHouseOnTheLane Wed 16-Dec-15 23:07:50

Are you serious? hmm

What do you want? A disclaimer on the website stating that you were responsible for those activities?

People borrow ideas all the's benefited the children and all is well. If you were in education or were some sort of consultant then you could be pissed off but you shared, they took.

theycallmemellojello Wed 16-Dec-15 23:08:58

Sorry, I think yabu. Of course teachers use by activities they learn about outside teaching college. And why would you be annoyed the nursery has an outstanding grade? (Plus, you are aware that the outstanding grade is not solely or probably even significantly down to your activities??)

Crazybaglady Wed 16-Dec-15 23:10:01

Im curious to know the activities! I do think you are being unreasonable though, you dont own the activities and they cant be credited to you exclusively! I would just be happy that the other children are enjoying these mysterious unique activities...

WorraLiberty Wed 16-Dec-15 23:10:51

OMFG you're really claiming what was said in the OFSTED report as being totally down to you?? grin grin

nutellacrumpet Wed 16-Dec-15 23:11:05

YABU... you probably got your ideas of pin interest anyway. Do you want a medal? You sound right up your own arse. You should be pleased the nursery are open to doing news things to make it a nice environment for your PFB. Get over yourself.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 16-Dec-15 23:11:05


Oh sorry. You were being serious grin

TiggyD Wed 16-Dec-15 23:12:12

Would you ever dream of telling the nursery not to copy any of your activities?
That would be ridiculous wouldn't it?
Write a book of ideas if you want more credit. Well done to the staff for recognising a good idea and then doing it.

Scarletforya Wed 16-Dec-15 23:12:59

I don't actually believe you, is this a reverse?

Tell me these amazing new ideas.....hmm

Permanentlyexhausted Wed 16-Dec-15 23:13:48

YABU. If you don't want them to "steal" your ideas, don't share them. Simple.

Where did you get the ideas for the activities from? I think it's highly unlikely that you've just invented a whole load of brand new never-though-of-before activities for children.

Marcipex Wed 16-Dec-15 23:15:15

Oh dear. I work in a nursery and I'm always on the lookout for good ideas, craft projects and recommendations.
We do tend to share successful ideas with friends in other settings. I'm sure they didn't mean to upset you.

ghnocci Wed 16-Dec-15 23:15:30

I'd put money on the OP having got her ideas from Pinterest. Somewhere out there is a smug mummy blogger who should take the real credit for the Ofsted report

Excited101 Wed 16-Dec-15 23:15:33

YANBU they are professionals, it's pretty worrying they can't and aren't coming up with their own ideas

Secondtimeround75 Wed 16-Dec-15 23:15:49

You sound nuts
Happy Christmas

harrietflies Wed 16-Dec-15 23:16:18

At no point did I say they wouldn't have received the grade without me. I just think it's rude to openly poach ideas without so much as mentioning it to the person you're poaching them from.

QuintsNight Wed 16-Dec-15 23:16:35

What, have you been drawing with your child? Or built a lego horse?


What is so special you do that you know for a fact that no nursery has done before?

Binglesplodge Wed 16-Dec-15 23:17:49

Is she your only child? If she hasn't started at nursery, how do you know what their standard activities are? Did you really mean to say you've invented multiple brand new activities to do with children that the early years professionals at the nursery couldn't have thought up or already come across? If so, you may be in the wrong career as the nursery could do with your help.

Permanentlyexhausted Wed 16-Dec-15 23:18:21

YANBU they are professionals, it's pretty worrying they can't and aren't coming up with their own ideas

Hahaha! Professionals know not to reinvent the wheel.

harrietflies Wed 16-Dec-15 23:18:58

It also pissed me off because day to day I tend to think her nursery don't make enough effort as there's probably only two activities per week set up indoors. Yet on the day of the inspection there were five activities indoors and three outside. It just feels a bit false.

mrsglowglow Wed 16-Dec-15 23:19:15

YABU!! You have to be joking surely! Do you think a nursery having an ofsted inspection could suddenly decide to do 4 activities they had not heard of until your update that same week? If only it was that simple.

DustyCropHopper Wed 16-Dec-15 23:20:08

I am finding it very hard to believe that you are coming up with ideas on an almost daily basis that have never been done before. If you are so concerned about the nursery 'copying' stop posting these unique activities.

ghnocci Wed 16-Dec-15 23:20:50

Are you going to tell us what the activities were? Was it snow dough?

Permanentlyexhausted Wed 16-Dec-15 23:21:02

I just think it's rude to openly poach ideas without so much as mentioning it to the person you're poaching them from.

Erm, they did ...

and laughed as she said 'I might have to steal that.'

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