Hi there,
I'm trying to see things from my mums point of view so would appreciate your wisdom mums.
My brother is 25 and has long term drug addiction query mental health issues. He lives in chaos and drags us all down with him. In the past 6 months alone he has 12 criminal charges pending, everything from serious assault, to housebreaking (my house) and vandalism.
He's constantly lying to and manipulating my parents. DM lives abroad with my step dad and my younger DB. Dad lives some distance from me and has my much younger sister to care for. A lot of the admin of keeping track of him (making sure he's still breathing) falls to me. I find myself an unwilling expert on sheriff court processing times, mental health ward admission criteria etc. My google history is horrendous.
Due to bail conditions my brother is not allowed to approach or contact me or even spend time in the community where I live and the same conditions stand for my dad.
I still get near daily updates from my mum. He goes AWOL approx once a month, and we usually find him in police custody, as we did this weekend. He's hurting so many people, families affected by his temper tantrums. It makes me feel sick. The question of remand appears to be a joke although its clear it would be the safest option.
For the first time tonight I've told my mum that I want him out of our lives. I want her to stop contacting him as he's poisoning our family. AIBU? Mum argues that he is ill and he has spent time detained under the mental health act but no diagnosis as such, just drug induced psychosis.
Thanks for reading if you've got this far. Needed a rant. I'm not overly concerned about outing myself so should mention that we are in Scotland as it changes the legal stuff.
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blacksheep2014 · 14/12/2015 17:59
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