Wibu to do away with my teenage dcs until they become human again ( lighthearted)

[emilybrontescorset]

I know the toddler years are bad , but at least you can put a toddler in another room and keep them the hell away from you!

I have 3 teenagers who can be great, lovely etc .
Then sometimes they turn into satan.

Every single thing I ask turns into a huge row.
I have written 4 basic rules down for my 17 year old. 4 bloody things one of which is have a shower BEFORE everyone is in bed trying to get to sleep.
What happened the other night whilst I was drifting off to sleep, he blasts the bloody shower on which is right next to my bedroom leaves it running then roams around the house whistling!
I'm not a light sleeper but I sat straight up in bed with the sudden noise.

I had work the next day and was not impressed.

I told him to turn the shower off he was told to get in earlier.
His response: I live here and xb shower whenever I like.


I turned the water supply off in the end.


Does it ever improve?

He thinks I'm an absolute evil mother. Doing such evil things like removing the Internet cable when he refuses to come off his xbox despite me telling him evey night that he must b off it by x time.

I've always had rules this is nothing new but all 3 dcs give me the look which implies I am the worst mother in the entire universe for imposing any rule.

[emilybrontescorset]

Oh and the latest episode from my 13 year old was why should I was my plates when I didn't cook the meal?!!!!

[CalleighDoodle]

Holy crao they sound spoiled! Keep firm. constant enforcing of the rules!

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Keep on doing what you're doing and stick to your rules.

Some, not all, teenagers think the world revolves around them and are very put out when demands are made of them.

I hope your 13 year old did the dishes.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Turn off the Wifi until they've done as you asked, teenagers without wifi, ha!.

[Kbear]

I don't think they sound spoiled - I think they sound like teenagers! My DD is 16 and potters about all evening then wants to shower at 11. I have told her no as the pump is noisy and I'm trying to sleep and this is my house my rules. Teenagers forget this, didn't we all, but "this isn't a hotel" is a much used line by generations of parents haha

[mintoil]

YANBU - mine are just the same, have been dealing with similar/same issues for 5 years now sobs.

Agree re WIFI - I have been known to drive to work with the router in my car if they have seriously pissed me off.

They are adept at making you feel that everyone elses mum allows them to do X, Y, Z and is so much cooler than you. It's all a load of shite, don't fall for it, just keep doing what you are doing.

It is important that they realise the world does not revolve around them and that if they wish to live with you there are rules and levels of acceptable behaviour.

Best of luck!

Also, vodka works

[emilybrontescorset]

Thanks everyone.

I gave the router to a friend of mine Friday night, then I went out.
It was still there on Saturday too.

Think disconnecting the Internet is the way to go.

I threatened to throw dirty dishes in the bin if they keep refusing to wash up.

My d's said but what will you eat off mum?
Oh I'll wash my plates and I'll gave dishes but you won't.

My ds dirty clothes remain unwashed in a heap on his bedroom floor. The linen bin is on the landing just outside his room but it must be far too difficult to put clothes into it.

I've told them all they are welcome to go and Liv elsewher if they find my rules too much.

All of them insist they are not leaving.

I've made it clear it will be no loss to me when /if they go.

Told them the minute they leave I will decamp to a one bedroomed flat, with no room at the inn for any of then.

[Bettercallsaul1]

Don't worry, OP - they come out of it and revert to being delightful human beings again! I read a very interesting article about teenagers once - basically explaining how we should be tolerant of them! - because, apparently, the brain completely reconfigures during these years in preparation for becoming an adult. In terms of self-centredness, impulse control etc, the teenage brain reverts to being very like a toddler's - hence the similarity in behaviour! To a large extent, teenagers are not in control of their moods and behaviour, and will emerge into much more reasonable adults, given time. Do not take this personally - and, of course, it will pass!

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Leave his dirty clothes where they are, hard as it might feel to do so.

When he runs out of clean stuff he'll deal with them and have to wash them himself, keep his door shut so you don't have to look at it.

[rainbowstardrops]

Yanbu They sound like typical teenagers!
My ds is 15 and much the same. I also turn the wifi off - I get unlimited 3G, he doesn't
They seem to take on a very selfish, self-entitled persona but I'm assured it passes. Eventually