Ok. Going to attempt to be concise!
Background: I split from my husband earlier in the year as he has severe MH problems that made me feel very unsafe living with him and very uneasy with our lg around him. He blamed me for everything wrong in his life, told me I'd made him self harm and other things. Don't want to drip feed and I know this is AIBU but please don't ask for more info on the details, I'm gradually processing it. MH emergency team got involved with him. His parents are super controlling and always have to be right. He told me he wanted a divorce so I started things rolling. He was furious that I was divorcing him rather than him me. I got angry emails, threats etc. He seemed determined to see our lg but refused to skype, refused to come to see her, refused the kids contact centre and refused to meet in town as I'd be there. He wanted unsupervised contact in his house 6 hours away and I wouldn't concede because of prior threats. I can't drive, he took the car off me. All verbal threats until recently. He denied everything I was divorcing him for and claims it is my MH that is the problem and I'm an unfit mother. He eventually started skype contact and was totally different online compared to the emails I'd had which made me think that his dad (who basically runs his life for him even when we were married) was the one writing them to try and intimidate me into doing what they wanted. PILs have not been in touch with me at all. I've offered to skype them so they can see dd. It was refused.
Anyway....
I got sent a threatening email a few weeks ago and he has not contacted me since. It's nearly Christmas. My solicitor is baffled by the lack of contact. I'm worried his dad and him are plotting something. Am I worrying too much? It's the first Christmas for dd. I'm scared social services will pop up and take her. That's unreasonable, right? My HV isn't worried about DD, she says I'm doing great, I've had no contact with anyone about dd who have expressed concern, I have friends, we go to baby groups etc. Social services can't just pop up and take dd if my ex starts claiming I'm mentally ill? (I've never had any involvement with any MH services). DD is a baby if that makes any difference?
Sorry. I just thought he'd want to see her for Xmas. I know she wont remember. I'm just so worried that I'll try to relax and then he'll drop a bombshell - I had no contact from him for a month and then he was demanding custody and threatening to come take her. Prepared to be told to get my head out of my arse and put a happy festive hat on. Please tell me I'm over worrying! :)
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Caffeinatedbrewofjoy · 08/12/2015 22:15
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