thinking I just want to rant. any advice or opinions greatly appreciated.
DH & I have 2 DC. his mum and his brother and sister live other end of country to us so we don't see them often. when they do come to visit it is always very stressful, but DH and I go along with it because they don't see the kids often. in my opinion they are terrible house guests. MIL decides on a whim whether she will be vegetarian or not (I'm told for religious reasons but there doesn't seem to be any pattern). BIL is vegan. Catering for christmas is a nightmare. I had DC 2 last year and none of them helped with anything, not even to make me a cup of tea. DH and I still did all the cooking and cleaning (he later had a word with them about how unacceptable this was).
every birthday and mothers day I send them all cards from us. and photos and paintings DC have done. in 4 years I have never had a single card from them. I have let this pass until now.
we recently got married few months ago and we didn't receive a card from any of them (we didn't want a gift but surely a card isn't expecting too much). asked DH about it and even he thought it was odd. he asked MIL about it and she said it's not in her culture to send carda but that if it was so important to me then she would post one. SIL told us to get over it.
basically I feel I try to be a good family member to them and keep them involved in the children's lives. but I feel very hurt for the effort I put in.
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Leah1802 · 27/11/2015 12:23
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