to be flummoxed by this....

[TooSassy]

So, after 10 years of a LTR / marriage I am back on the dating scene.

Was asked out by a man I met at a work conference. He seemed lovely so I thought why not. We went for drinks, had a fab evening. He got in contact and arranged drinks again.
Couple of hours into drinks (round two) he asks me 'so are you coming back with me tonight?'

I just looked at him and said 'No'. He was serious and not joking.

I'm not a prude. I've done one night stands when younger and am not averse to another one.

But AIBU to be stunned that this seems to be the world of dating now???

[Handywoman]

This is not the world of dating.

It's just one bloke.

How did he respond?

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

That's nit the world of dating. That's the world of douchery.

Don't be put off.

[TooSassy]

Lol @ douchery!!! Lmao!!

He took it on the chin and seemed to think the chase was on. Little bit off putting to say the least though....

[OddlyLogical]

Some men have always tried their luck - it's nothing new.

[gobbynorthernbird]

If it was me, and I fancied the bloke, I'd shag him. I really don't see what was wrong with him asking.

[Spellcaster]

They will try to be cheeky doesn't mean you have to go along. If you want a one night stand, go for it. If you want it to be more long term, give the guy the chance to fall for you - which means making him wait much longer! Have a read of "the rules" for women. Worked for me.

[TooSassy]

I haven't read that book for YEARS!

Hmmm. The guy is hot. He's a tree that needs climbing. It's just it's the first new one in 10 years....that's a long time of not being naked in front of a random guy

[gobbynorthernbird]

Pah, get on it lass. You'll have to sooner or later.

[TooSassy]

gobby never a truer word spoken!

I still reckon it's off to just blurt it out and ask....

[gobbynorthernbird]

It's entirely possible that he thinks you're so hot he couldn't help himself. Good luck!

[TooSassy]

Lol

I guess I'm just a prude and AIBU.....

[TiffanyAtBreakfast]

YANBU, I'm in your camp and would think it was quite cheeky/forward but it wouldn't put me off a guy if I liked him. Did he seem unwilling to wait til you're ready? That's the bottom line I guess.

[TooSassy]

tiffany oh no he took it on the chin and has been in touch since to arrange drinks again.

The chase mode is well and truely engaged.

[SaucyJack]

YABU!

Personally I like to get where I'm sleeping that night sorted out about half hour into the first date if it's going well.

What are you waiting for? Make like a monkey and climb him.