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to think my boss is taking the piss?

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cjt110 Fri 30-Oct-15 13:52:52

So my DH works at a nationwide car and bike store. Part of his benefits of working there is that he gets a good discount rate and this is also passed on to someone who lives with him (i.e. me). You are not allowed for anyone other than a person that lives with you to use the "partner discount" and years ago when I also worked there, it was a sackable offence to do so.

SH's boss often bends the rules when it is a small purchase, providing it is me buying it. For example, if a friend wants a bottle of car shampoo, we will buy it for them, they get the discount, DH's manager knows but it's not a huge discount so he doesnt mind.

There is an unwritten rule that if it is a big/expensive item, you can't do that.

One of my bosses (B1) who is lovely is well aware of the ability of my husband to give him discount but never asks and is fully prepared to pay full price. On occasions DH has seen him in store and has offered him discount which he has sometimes declined, sometimes taken. But never taken the mick. He has even bought my son a present in the past as a thank you.

Another boss (B2). IMO a proper piss taker. Will actively seek my DH out, even though I have told him DH can't really give discount on large items and ask DH to give him discount. Puts DH on the spot and feeling awkward DH will give him the discount. He has even said to a mutual colleague before, Oh pop and see MrCJT, he'll give you discount. I was shock at him offering my husband's discount out willy nilly to someone DH hasnt even met before!

Yesterday I was popping to the car wash near DH and mentioned to B1 about it. He said oh that reminds me I need to get some car shampoo. I said well I can pick some up for you if you like. I'll get it a lower price don't forget. B1 said oh yes, well that'd be good but only if you have time. If not, don't worry I'll get some later on this evening. So I went and got him some. He was very grateful giving me the cash immediately and saying to thank my husband.

Today B2 called the office, couldnt get in touch with me as I was was on lunch and then rang my mobile! He asked me could I get a price on something (that is usually IRO £100+) from my husband and could my husband give him the "best price possible with his discount"

AIBU to think he's a cheeky git. On a side note, how do I tell him get stuffed.

OurBlanche Fri 30-Oct-15 13:58:59

Email him back with a note: sorry, but The Company have sent out a reminder of the rules, DH cannot afford to lose his job.

And then stop offering one person but not another. You are setting yourself up for the piss takers if you do. And tell the other colleague that B2 had no right to offer your DH as he did.

Then don't talk about it any more.

cjt110 Fri 30-Oct-15 14:01:17

Blanche You are definitely right. B1 doesnt even ask for discount and doesnt discuss it either. Its just the brazenness of B2!

OnlyLovers Fri 30-Oct-15 14:04:58

Block his number on your phone, for starters.

And yes, email and say 'I cannot get anyone discounts on anything. Please don't ask.'

TPel Fri 30-Oct-15 14:09:55

I think you might want to take this thread down. It is pretty obvious what store you are talking about. Your DH, though being kind, could be at risk if it is discovered he is bending the rules.

OurBlanche Fri 30-Oct-15 14:12:15

Yeah! Like there aren't 425 stores to choose from, all with employees who have wives and husbands, who have bosses and colleagues and family!

TPel Fri 30-Oct-15 14:13:27


PoppyBlossom Fri 30-Oct-15 14:23:12

Honestly, I think you are encouraging it. It seems a silly thing for you and your husband to pimp out his store discount, when it could become a sackable offence. Why are you providing your boss with this discounts? Who else do you hand it out to? Your friends, brother in law, parents etc? From now on a blanket no would be the best policy.

BondJayneBond Fri 30-Oct-15 14:24:30

Yes, e-mail him back and say that they're getting stricter about the rules and you / DH will no longer be allowed to get discounts on any of the products for anyone.

Damselindestress Fri 30-Oct-15 14:36:05

Tell both your bosses that the store is really cracking down on the rules and DH cannot share his discount with anyone as he could lose his job. I would keep it general and not draw a distinction between boss 1 and boss 2 even though 1 has been more reasonable, to avoid causing offence. I think if you are polite and professional about it they should understand. Then just stop bending the rules and only buy items for your own use to avoid any issues in future.

eddielizzard Fri 30-Oct-15 14:38:56

yup, every time your dh does it it's a green light for b2 to continue. b1 doesn't take the piss so he gets the rewards. b2 is an arse so tell him no more discounts. grow some cajonas PLEASE.

WeAllHaveWings Fri 30-Oct-15 14:39:08

I work for a company with a staff shop selling our products at a discount (including gin smile), I can purchase on behalf of direct family (dh, dc, our parents), or give as gifts to anyone as long as I don't take cash.

If someone asks me to buy them something I simply tell them I'm not allowed (and maybe get it for them as a birthday/xmas present).

Your dh and you have brought this on yourselves by telling people you have the option of a discounts and then giving them out. Not surprised, and can hardly blame, B2 and others approaching your dh for a discount when they have been given the impression, either directly from yourselves or through the grapevine, that your dh will give them it.

Go with blanche idea and you and your dh stop offering/giving discounts that break company policy. If your dh loses his job or is disciplined over this the only person to blame will be himself.

cjt110 Fri 30-Oct-15 14:41:26

Thanks all. Will find some way of telling both of them no more discount. I know we shouldnt have started it at all, but I think B2's brazeness - almost like it's expected - just annoys me.

OurBlanche Fri 30-Oct-15 14:44:42

Well, in the spirit of Christmas Soon To Be, and all that, just shout "Bah! Humbug!" as often as possible.

They'll all get the hint smile

bloodyteenagers Fri 30-Oct-15 14:56:36

Email him back. Say discounts are no longer available to anyone full stop. I'm sure if you shop around and try places like hukd you might find a deal. But don't ask me again.

IamtheDevilsAvocado Fri 30-Oct-15 15:10:05

I think a one line comment will do it.

Due to people abusing it the company are now becoming rigid on this. No stafd discounts are now available for people other than staff.

Presumably taking the piss boss 2 can always try and 'do a deal', the same as anyone can ..... Just not your OHs staff discount.

BeanGirls Fri 30-Oct-15 16:43:23

I think you've encouraged it by offering it in the first place. I don't think there's anything piss taking about asking for a good deal, especially as you openly say your dh can get it.

If it annoys you just say from now on they're clamping down and there's no discount for non family.

icelollycraving Fri 30-Oct-15 16:47:56

You've offered it,you've been a bit foolish. Say they've clamped down & someone really got in trouble so no,you can't risk his job.
Agree you should get this deleted.

lieselvontwat Fri 30-Oct-15 17:07:40

I'd just say you can't because they're cracking down. DH has had something said to him.

pluck Fri 30-Oct-15 18:21:56

If B1 is indeed so lovely, perhaps you could ask him to speak up about not asking anymore? This would save you the awkwardness of calling B2 on abuse of his position (leaning on underling and underling's DH - really not on).

Gobbolinothewitchscat Fri 30-Oct-15 18:49:37

Your problem is that your DH has gone around like the Big I Am offering discounts to people. Which actually would be viewed by an employer as dishonest.

I am an employment lawyer (when not in mat leave!) and latterly had a lot of retail clients. I would say misuse of staff discounts was one if the biggest proportion of gross misconduct dismissals. Particularly in instances like this where it is ongoing and there is no misunderstanding of the position.

I agree that this thread is potentially quite identifiable. I'd get it taken down and tell both bosses verbally (I wouldn't commit anything to writing just in case an email where you essentially admit a breach of the policy surfaces somewhere) that under no circumstances are discounts being given and that you or your DH will not be buying anything on behalf of any third parties and passing on the discount.

Then tell your DH to stop bloody offering the discount and comply with the policy 100%.

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