To consider putting a lock on my bedroom door and locking myself in

[Fiona4545]

DD 14 is in full blown teenage angst phase. She seems to be going with a "what's yours is mine" approach and "borrows" all my stuff (including my knickers). She apologises when I ask if she has (insert what ever stolen item). She borrowed my laptop and has filled it with viruses from watching films on some free site. I'm all up for sharing but I like to be asked and frankly this is the straw that broke the camels back . I'm seriously considering a lock for my bedroom, I may even start storing food in there as she also likes to put empty wrappers back in cupboards.

[KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes]

Yes, do it. I would.

That kind of stuff would make me flip my shit.

[Fiona4545]

I flipped my shit. Now I'm trying to think of a way to live with her for the next few years in harmony .

[DickDewy]

God, who'd have teens?

Mine has just gone nuts at me as I queried why he'd bought his second drone in a week. He told me it's none of my business what he spends his money on.

I politely informed him that as it's my money going into his account, I do have a slight say, especially as he's the only 17 year old I know that doesn't have a pt job. He then told me to 'butt out'.

I've just cancelled my standing order to his account and am now going to source a lock for my bedroom door!

[Fiona4545]

Haha mother rebellion.
I love her but really dislike her at the moment. She's rude sloth like and has the most grim hygiene habits. Spends hours a day preening but yet can't put her rubbish in bin and will often find mouldy food in her bedroom drawers, she wastes money on crap then has a tantrum when I won't top her up and my favourite talking to me like a piece of crap constantly aaaerrrgghhhh

[shutupanddance]

While you are in there eat alot so you get fat recommend cheese and chocs then she won't borrow your knics.

[Angelika321]

I'm definitely getting a lock to keep my 8 yo out of my room. A combination jobbie so I don't need to faff around with keys. At least that way something in this house won't be destroyed by her!

[icouldjusteatacroissant]

I've had a lock on my bedroom door for a couple of years. Had to. Little bastards. Only downside is we lost both keys, and dh was on the verge of breaking in, then we found one, but not the other. Oh, and our room is now a store room too, as even the stash of sweets goes in there to prevent them from eating a weeks worth in one night.

Def get a lock.

[WorraLiberty]

I was never allowed in my parent's bedroom without asking/knocking.

It was just a normal thing growing up, so I taught my kids the same.

They're 23, 16 and nearly 13 now and they still ask if they need to get anything from my room.

[Fiona4545]

I'm going to for my own sanity. I might turn it into a mini bedsit with a fridge. DD managed to eat an entire Stilton, Brie and 2 French sticks in about 4 hours today so she might not fit my knickers for much longer.

[Fiona4545]

DD never used to but all manners and respect seemed to vanish once puberty struck. I'm trying to pick my battles but there are plenty of them!

[Snausage]

That she might not fit in your knickers for much longer really made me chuckle! I'd defo go for a lock.

[Fiona4545]

Just off to buy my lock now

[megletthesecond]

Yanbu. I had a proper key lock fitted on my door when the dc's were toddlers. It's the only place I have to hide presents. I try to stop them trashing it but 7yo dd has started drawing on my furniture . I just can't remember to keep the key on me to keep it locked all the time.

On one particularly awful day I did lock myself in with a cup of tea to calm down.

[Hotpatootietimewarp]

Yep I'm considering a lock already, DD is only 7 but often goes in and helps herself to my makeup/posh body lotions as hand cream despite me discussing with her that it is not appropriate, she is only just remembering to knock when me and DH are in there!

I think I'd be better doing it now than flipping out when she is a teen because I think she will realise all the nice stuff is kept out of the bathroom and go looking. My Dsis used to go in my room and borrow my clothes etc and then lie about it it made me feel utterly nuclear!!!

[StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes]

we had a lock, used it daily and if we went away right up until a couple of years ago. DS1 was a bit light fingered as a youngster and stole some money which is why it went on. He still has a 'whats yours is mine' attitude but usually asks now generally neither Ds1 or 2 wander in without knocking / shouting first if we are in but often find them preening in front of my mirror when I'm not in my room.

[3lovelykids]

My dd is 23 and still helps herself to my stuff! Infuriating isn't the word ??