Dh and I were at an appointment this morning. It was a 'professional' appointment but the guy we spoke to was lovely, very chatty, we had a few laughs and had a bit of rapport going.
So the conversation touched on dc, then schools/areas...and when I mentioned the comprehensive school I went to, the guy we were seeing said 'Oh I went there!'. It was a bit of a coincidence as the appointment was about 30 miles away from said school so not really local and obviously piqued my interest.
Anyway, my instant response was 'Oh really?! How old are you?'.
So he kind of smiles, mutters and mumbles a bit and goes a bit pink then faffs with some papers and changes the subject quite abruptly - kills the conversation stone dead.
Dh thought it was a weird response but thinks I must have embarrassed him by asking his age. I suppose I could have said 'Oh really, when were you there?' but essentially that's the same question anyway!
In the context of the conversation i'd have said it was pretty obvious I was asking to try and pin him down to a year at school - he was quite clearly in the same sort of age bracket as me. I'm rubbish at ages but would have guessed between 28-34ish and would say it was highly unlikely impossible that he was actually a young looking 50 year old or anything. I also look around the 'just under 30' mark so it's not like he was actually 26 and may have thought I was 45 and lumping myself with him, which he was offended by.
AIBU to think it's 'odd' to be embarrassed by age questions when asked by someone similarly aged? Or was IBVU to ask him at all? It did cross my mind that maybe the 'I went there!' from him was actually a spur of the moment fib, which he instantly regretted and then panicked about in case I started naming names he should know lol.
AIBU?
To think it's not always rude to ask someones age?
MinecraftWonder · 06/10/2015 15:44
Oh fuck troll, I can feel my cheeks going red just reading your comment. That's not something I considered, I bloody hope not!
Haha! That thread gave me mileage for DAYS! I asked so many people what they would've done and 90% said keep it lol. I think said man is a bit strange. I don't remember everyone I went to school with nor do I expect them to remember me! I wouldn't worry about it. 
will you have anymore meeting with him and you can dig a bit further?
The other way OP put it is still a give away about age. I honestly don't get how some people get by in life by being so sensitive about simple questions 
I'd never ask someone who was noticibly older or younger than me their age...it was drilled into me as a child. But I don't think I'd have ever considered asking someone the same age as me as rude.
Anyway, you may judge me but trolls comment gave me a cold sweat so I've just typed him into facebook . I found him and actually have a few friends in common, but all sorts of random people (couple from work/school/old job etc) and no obvious link. He doesn't have any school info down though.
I really don't think I've ever clapped eyes on him, i'm pretty sure I should remember someone from my year - but it was over a decade ago and there were 300 in the same year as me
What an odd thing to seem put out over, given the context
have you forgotten? he was the guy you snogged every lunchtime behind the bike sheds for a full term 
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