Today I went to pick up my 11 year old son from summer school and his newish friend (they went to junior school together but werent really friends before this summer school for their new secondary school) asked if he could go to his house for dinner. He said his dad said it was ok, so I asked him to phone his dad up to check that it really was ok and get his address etc.
So I gave him my phone and let him walk with his friend to his friends house. This new friend seems so much more mature than my son. I usually drop him off or pick him up from friends and he doesn't walk anywhere by himself as school is so far away.
My DP says to relax and let him have some freedom but I am freaking out and can't wait until he's back!
I know I'm probably overprotective and should relax!
AIBU?
to be freaking out that my son has gone free range for the first time?
zippyone · 18/08/2015 16:20
Oh god I remember it well with DS1. He just suddenly started going out and about at that age.
I couldn't relax, I couldn't think about anything else other than when he would be back. I would pace. DH would be all 
Then, one day he went off to the park as normal and i realised I hadn't thought about him for an hour or two. 
My two are now 16 and 13 and I only ever know vaguely where they are this holiday.
mitzy behave yourself [grin[
well he IS 11, secondary school coming up so you are doing the right thing OP.
In about 5 years you wont know where he is from one hour to the next - as sparkling said.
A street gang?! 
I am most worried about traffic as like I said he is not used to walking about by himself although his new friend seems very streetwise and he has some roadsense really.
Leaving him at the school to walk about 30 mins to his friends was sooooo hard! I called him about 30 mins later and he said they weren't at his friends yet but nearly.
I was out with friends way before age 11 but I just feel so nervous about letting him do it.
HE'LL BE FINE
(I'd be worrying too. DS goes out a tiny bit and I know I've got to increase it)
I'm only joking OP. I'm sure he's perfectly safe and having a great time.
It's only natural for you to worry although I'm sure he'd probably be completely 'oh Mum for God's sake' if he caught wind of your stress 
My dd is 18 and I still feel like this
When she's on a night out with her mates I can't relax until I know she's home. It can be 3/4 in the morning before I can properly breath again
Glad I'm not the only one - thought I was being completely irrational - thanks 
It's fine OP. It's a good thing for him to start having more independence now.
Assuming he knows about road safety etc, he could start running small errands for you at the local shop this summer as well. In fact this is the main reason I had my children - that and to make me a cup of tea .
Is he going to make his own way to secondary school? If so, it might be worth practising over the rest of the holiday.
I'm at the same stage with dd1, she's also 11 and starts High School in September. She only started going out alone at the start of the holidays, now she's got her own keys! The first time was nerve wracking but we're all rather blase now
He is a child not a chicken. He is playing out like children do not being free range 
Well done for getting past your anxiety though and letting him have some freedom that cannot have been easy.
Of course you are nervous, you are his mum.
You did good. It gets easier as they get older and more sensible. Mine are 25,24.16,15,, still worry. And grandchild on the scene soon. Yikes.
Op you are completely normal.
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