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to withdraw my job application in this way?

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Needtotreadcarefully · 09/08/2015 20:12

We are moving to another city. I have a job interview lined up but since agreeing with the recruitment consultant that I would be happy for her to put my CV forward, she has sent me a detailed job description and I have realised that I really don't have the necessary experience to do a good job in this role. At another time in my life, I would probably have gone in there and tried to sell myself on the basis that I would hopefully be able to pick it up, but with young DC, I would feel much, much happier going for a job for which I know I have the relevant experience. There's enough stress going on at the moment without adding more into the mix unnecessarily. I am actually really interested in the company and there aren't that many employers of this type in the new city, so I would like to try to extract myself from this situation in the best possible way as it's quite likely that I would want to apply for a more junior role with them in the future.

To add a further complication, in discussing all of this this weekend, DH and I have decided that we would quite like to try for another DC after all. We had been putting it off for health reasons but have recently been given the all clear. The health condition is actually one where it would be far less risky to have any more DC sooner rather than later, although it isn't anything which would require any sick leave in the future so shouldn't cause concern to a potential employer. Obviously starting a new job would delay this by quite some time and even then, becoming pregnant the minute you walk into a new job seems unlikely to attract extra goodwill.

On that basis, WIBU to say to the recruitment consultant (who is a very nice lady and who I really don't want to mess around) that I am terribly sorry but that I feel it would be unfair to proceed further with my application on the basis that:

  1. I don't think that I have sufficient experience of this area yet and I don't want to waste their time, but am very interested in the company and would be grateful if they would consider a further application from me at a later date when I have gained further relevant experience; or


  1. Due to information which we have recently received, we need to bring forward our plans to expand our family. DH thinks that this is what I should say but it feels like a bit TMI and she might think it's a little unusual?; or


  1. just that our family circumstances have changed, and leave it at that.


Which do you think would be least likely to annoy her and the company?

Thanks very much in advance.
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ilovesooty · 09/08/2015 20:15

I think I'd go for a combination of 1 and 3 while thanking her for her help. Good luck.

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peskisaurus · 09/08/2015 20:17

I would tell the truth - sadly, after reading the job description, the job isn't what you're after. You'd be keen to be considered for any jobs in give explanation of what role you want.

I'd give her a call rather than rely on email just to make sure it's smoothed over.

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peskisaurus · 09/08/2015 20:18

Huh, I didn't know that if you put text between two asterisks it becomes bold. You learn something new every day!

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Bleakhouse1879 · 09/08/2015 20:31

Don't sweat it honey, recruitment consultants are next to useless and they know it. Just say you're not interested. That is probably more feedback than she gets from any of her other clients, most clients probably refuse to answer the phone when she rings.

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TamzinGrey · 09/08/2015 20:36

3 is fine. Just do 3.

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lemoncordial · 09/08/2015 20:46

Don't mention about trying for more dc. It might stop that agency from putting the it forward for more jobs.

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Todayisnottheday · 09/08/2015 20:53
  1. Plus an explanation of what you are doing now.
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Charis1 · 09/08/2015 20:55

if you are using a recruitment consultant, you are likely to be put forward for dozens of jobs, and 90% will be unsuitable, just get used to politely and efficiently saying no thank you, not this one.

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Inertia · 09/08/2015 20:57

I would just say that your circumstances have changed and you're not in a position to proceed with this application. They don't need to know anything else.

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Needtotreadcarefully · 09/08/2015 20:58

I absolutely take your point but I had in fact agreed to put in my CV for this one, and am now withdrawing it, having set up an interview. I feel there's a bit more of an onus on me to provide a good reason, so she doesn't think I was just messing her and the company around.

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nevergoo · 09/08/2015 21:03

I would go for no 1, the company would appreciate the honesty and be more favourable if you applied in future.

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Rudawakening · 09/08/2015 21:04

I did this with the job that I am currently in. Didn't think I had the experience they needed, the company disagreed and asked me to come in anyway.

I've been there over a year now and to be honest I'm probably one of the more experience people doing the job! Maybe explain point 1 to the consultant and let her speak to the company they might surprise you.

Oh and I'm 21 weeks pregnant as well, hadn't been there a year when it happened by accident. Don't let TTC hold you back as with the best will in the world it could take a while to happen.

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Ragwort · 09/08/2015 21:04

Can you just say something like you have re-read the job description more and regret that you do not have the necessary skills/experience so would like to withdraw your application for this particular job - stating that you do not wish to waste the company's time by attending the interview. Be pleasant but assertive about this.

I would absolutely NOT mention your plans to have another child .... it may not happen and you will need to remain on professional terms with the recruitment agency.

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Unthoughtknown · 09/08/2015 21:05

I'd still go to the interview. The job may not be right for you, but if you impress them they may keep you in mind for something else. The wanting another dc is irrelevant.

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addictedtosugar · 09/08/2015 21:08

You agreed to put the CV forward then you got more about info, so I think "Following on from the info you sent, I do not wish to continue with the application. I'm looking for XYZ type roles"
Do not, under any circumstances mention more babies!

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MixedBerrys · 09/08/2015 21:20

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HeyDuggee · 09/08/2015 21:34

If you're interested in the company, and get an interview date - go. Leave it to the company to figure out you're not experienced (I'm sure they will). Interviews are two way streets. It's not just them interviewing you, it's also you scrutinising them to see if you'd be a good fit. you may find the actual job is totally different from the job description.

Don't say anything to the recruitment person or she will stop sending your cv to any other potential jobs.

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bearhug · 09/08/2015 22:01

I think you should go for the interview. A man would! Research shows that men will apply for jobs where they meet 50% of the requirements. Women only if they meet all of them and then some more. If nothing else, it will be good experience and a chance to find out more about the company.

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