Fucking bastarding BBQs should be banned unless you live in the middle of nowhere. Grrr.

[CrapBag]

Neighbour seems to spend a lot of time with her doors open or outside, that's fine, it's summer, I get that. But they are quite noisy.

But they also seem to have frequent BBQs. I have no problem when it's just for them, it isn't the BBQ itself I mind, it's the fucking blaring music and loud people that fuck me off. But it's Friday night and it's early, so I can hardly say anything.

Problem is DS' s bedroom is at the back and he can't sleep because the music is loudest in his room and all the noise from the people, so he has gone to bed in our room and we'll move him later. Our kids always go to bed at 7. Next door the child definitely doesn't as we hear her quite late sometimes (she's about 3 I think) so I don't think they consider 7 of clock being a child's bedtime.

I've put the TV on just to try and drown it out a bit as I am really noise intolerant, other people's noise literally makes me want to rip my ears off (yes I'd live in a detached house if I could afford it). I can still hear their music though. Doesn't help as it's soft rock/grunge type music so quite noisy and distinctive anyway.

So basically BBQs, music, drinking and loud people in gardens should be banned unless you live in a field surrounded by other fields.

Music volume seems to have changed. I've turned the TV up, but their music is fucking louder now!

[daisydukes229]

Loud neighbours can be so frustrating.

Are they the type of neighbour where you could go round and explain your ds is in bed and ask if they could turn the music down a little?

[LongDistanceLove]

Do you have misophonia?

[MythicalKings]

I hate the smell of BBQs. YANBU.

[WayneRooneysHair]

I BBQ regularly in the summer

[HirplesWithHaggis]

I live in a detached house, in a field, surrounded by other fields.

I'm not keen on BBQs, though. I feel your pain, OP.

[Bleakhouse1879]

I agree with you about everything. I don't understand how people can be so ignorant about the consequences of what they are doing.

I loved this sentence unless you live in a field surrounded by other fields.

[GinandJag]

You need to buy a house in the middle of 30 acres.

[Kerberos]

It's not the BBQ - it's the accompanying garden music for 7 hours at a time. That's bloody antisocial. And makes me want to get my 8 year old and her violin out in the garden to join in....

[rumbleinthrjungle]

Loud music makes me highly stabby. Very antisocial. Voices, fine, it's nice to hear people around but music is vile, especially since at a distance it's mostly bang bang bang.

On the up side, I have the most lovely Spanish next door neighbours who love their BBQ and cook out whenever they possibly can, and are serious cooks... oh the smells that come out of their garden, especially when they do fish. I sit out there and salivate. They play no music, although occasionally on a Sunday afternoon when they have a family get together they sing. Love it.

[lemoncordial]

Yanbu. That sounds hugely annoying. Hearing other people's parties on a regular basis, when you're trying to relax or get your children to bed, is very stressful.

I often wish I had a garden but I cosily myself with the knowledge that at least not having a garden means I don't have to hear other people's garden noise.

[SnapesCapes]

Our neighbour last summer went a bit bezerk with her parties every weekend. I lost count of the number of times I'd have to go round at 2/3am in my SheRa pyjamas, go through her gate and shout "what the fucking fuck" at her because she was unconscious in a patio chair with Coldplay's 'magic' stuck on repeat for nine frigging hours.

Fortunately (for me, at least) the neighbour on the other side of her got so sick of it she phoned EH and reported her, they sent in recordings of her madness (apparently I can be heard, loudly, on several of the recordings) and she got served some kind of court order which, if she breaks it, means she's going to have to pay a bloody great big fine.

She's been deathly silent this summer until last weekend when she went mad and made me get out of bed at the ass-crack of dawn to turn off her music as she lay face-down on the grass. I dare say the crazy neighbour who reported her will have phoned EH again and she'll have a hefty fine to pay if it carries on. Lunatic.

In short, op, YANBU. Nothing worse than noisy neighbours all the time.

[CrapBag]

Wow. She-Ra pyjamas! Cool.

Thankfully the music has gone. I did turn my TV up a couple of times. By the time Eastenders had finished, it was off. Hope it doesn't go back on. They are being quite loud. DH has just come home and could hear them out the back, he was around the front.

Just Googled misophonia. Sounds interesting actually. And I do have tinnitus. I put it down to the fact that I ha en ME/CFS and noise intolerance can be a big thing for some people. But I didn't particular like it before its just got a lot worse since I've had it. Our old neighbours used to play the cello and 2 types of trumpet/trombone type instruments in a small terraced house until about 9.30 a night. They were lucky that I will do anything to avoid confrontation.

Neighbours also thunder up and down their stairs. And I do mean thunder. My own kids don't seem to make as much noise and I think their stairs share a wall with our front room.

I'd love a detached house. Where the neighbours have no gardens so no BBQ/party/socialising shenanigans can take place.