My v close friend and I usually have very similar child rearing methods/opinions. However, somethibg has popped up and I'm not sure whether iabu to want to discuss it.
My dc are 8 and 5, hers are 7 and 6. Her 7yo has started swearing. It started off as my friend being amused and embarrassed, which is what I would be. She said mother fuck er casually in conversation after hearing a friend at school say it. Friend told her calmly that it isn't a nice word but didn't make a big deal of it, which is exactly what I would do and have done.
Since then though, my friend has started casually using words like arse around all the children, including mine. Her kids both use mild ish swear words casually in conversation.
I'm not of the impression that kids never swear. I am sure my 8yo knows swear words because she points them out when they are written somewhere and giggles (with reaction of a slightly amused but calm 'that's not really a word for children or being polite' from me) and my 5yo is still under the impression that 'sexy', 'bum', 'poo' and 'sit' (a mis reading of shit as seen on a badge) are really cheeky rude words.
I feel like I'm being stuck up, but to me swear words have a purpose - they signify extreme emotion and/or informal adult conversation. For children it should be a kind of secret cheeky thing and an outburst for when they are really really annoyed and want to hit out verbally. I only swear in front of my parents if we are in a large group in the pub or wherever, and I am an adult who is really close to them.
I'm really really not a pride. I just think that swearing isn't just words. Words are never just words.
Aibu and should I say something?
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To feel uncomfortable with kids swearing?
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AllTheFluffyAnimals · 05/08/2015 23:57
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