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AIBU?

to have asked DH to come home

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wilddogbert · 01/07/2015 21:47

DH seems to think I am

So I woke up this morning full of hay fever and took an antihistamine. I had had to go to town because DD (12) needed socks for a school thing and we had run out of bread and milk.
So I decided to go in the morning before it got too hot I had DS3+4 (6months) and DS1 (7) because he was sick yesterday at school and they have a 48 hour rule but he has been totally fine since (think he was just too hot)

We get there are DS1 kept whining because he wanted socks too but there weren't any that he liked. And the babies were getting bored so ended up saying that DS1 couldn't have anything so we just bought the socks for DD but he was whining and kept staging his feet and ignoring me.
We then went to the food shop and DS1 tantrumed because he wanted pretty much everything he saw.
My antihistamine wasn't kicking in and I was just becoming really hot and stuffy.

So I eventually got them all home and they had lunch I was feeling really run down by this point so took some paracetamol DS1 was a nightmare all afternoon complaining that was bored and trying to wind up the babies.
DD got home in a right mood because she had extra homework and the bus was hot and it was all my fault because I don't give her enough lunch money to buy a can of drink from the bus drivers who sell them and EVERYONE else can afford one.
She went to her room in the end. I felt God awful I felt faint standing up and had to sit on a chair in the kitchen while I was making tea which was just beans on toast and cheese on toast because I was really struggling.

DH came home at 7 also in a mood because he had a busy day at work (he works in the nhs and when it's warm like this they get lots of people with burns and heat stroke etc.
He got all grumpy because "his tea was crap" I told him I felt ill but he said that I just had hay fever and I was being overdramatic. I kept telling him I was ill but he was shrugging it off saying I had too much Sun.

Then he announces that he is going out on his push bike with a mate for 2 hours. He has a race/ physical challenge type thing on the weekend and he has been training for weeks, he has done it and similar things before and he has said many times that he can do it easily. I asked him not to go as he had cycled to work and back so he has been on his bike today anyway, or at least wait an hour and settle the DCs for me and he could go for a ride after.
He said no, he had to go and so he did.

I got DS 1 in the bath eventually and DD watched the babies. Then I threw up and I felt really rough. I sat on my sofa and couldn't bring myself to get up again and I'm really hot. So I called DH and asked him to come home because I couldn't put the DSs to bed.

He huffed and puffed and said fine but since he has been back he has refused to even really look at me he has just put the DSs to bed and he is in the bedroom sulking.

I know that when I eventually get upstairs he will grump and sulk saying that I spoilt his day which I guess I did but I think I had good reason for it.

I don't usually ask him not to go out it has only happened a couple of times in our whole relationship and most of them was when I was pregnant with the twins. I always try my best to just get on with everything when I am ill and I am not ill that often either.
To honest I am a bit upset with him, when he is ill I always try to be understanding.

So was I unreasonable to ask him to come home?

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LaurieFairyCake · 01/07/2015 21:50

No you weren't

The fucker shouldn't have gone in the first place

What's he actually saying? That you are lying about feeling ill?

Twat