My older DD's father in law was rushed to hospital suddenly this week after becoming confused. He's been diagnosed with a massive inoperable brain tumour and will be sent home soon for his wife to care for him with the support of a Macmillan nurse. She doesn't work, so I don't think they will have any income. They are a pretty insular family so don't have friends or family other than my daughter and their two sons (who are 20 and 22 and quite young) for support. I don't know her particularly well as we've recently moved to the same town from a fair distance away so have only met a handful of times on special occaisions. They have lots of dogs, cats, and birds to care for. I would like to find ways to help. I don't have much spare cash as I'm a SAHM at the moment with a toddler, (husband works), and I have no transport so can't offer to drive anywhere. They live around 5 miles away. So far all I've come up with is: taking bags of shopping to my daughter to take to them and helping with her housework as she's been spending a lot of time with her MIL & FIL at hospital. Giving them as much cash as I could manage. Tomorrow I hope to take my grand daughters for the day and try to do more cleaning for DD and SIL. These things feel a bit pathetic in the face of such a horrible situation. Does anyone have any suggestions? Have you been in a similar situation and had or provided meaningful help? I'm particularly worried about my DD's MIL as she has no real support network and will be losing her long term partner and closest (only) friend. I'd be very grateful for any thoughts you might have, MN'ers.
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IrritableBitchSyndrome · 26/06/2015 15:42
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