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to make my son join a club

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ghostspirit Thu 25-Jun-15 18:33:40

my son is 8 years old. i think it would be good if he joined some sort of club. im thinking roller skating as he really likes it. i asked him and he said no. wibu to make him give it at least one go?

I went through this with ds3 - over the years I signed him up for several things, and offered others, but nothing stuck - in the end, I stopped because it seemed a waste of time signing him up for things that he then quit.

In his mid teens, a friend suggested he go along to the hockey club his friend was in (that his dad coached), and he did - and not only did he love it, but he is good at it. He and his friend moved up to a very good hockey club in Glasgow, and he'll be joining a clunpb when he goes to university.

I guess what I am saying is that, whilst being in a club is good, it isn't for every child, and sometimes it's better to let them find their passion.

Maybe take him along to some different things - you've suggested some things, and he's shown no interest in them, but maybe the next thing you suggest will be the thing he'd like to try - but if he doesn't want to stick with them, it's not the end of the world.

Have,you considered Beavers/Cubs? All my dses did these at some point, and ds1 and ds2 did enjoy them.

iklboo Thu 25-Jun-15 18:44:42

We had this with DS. Took him along to cubs for a tryout session - now he goes to cubs, rugby, karate & an after school cooking club. He's got a better social life than us.

manchestermummy Thu 25-Jun-15 18:47:01

Is there anything in particular that's making him nervous about joining a club? In dd1's case, she didn't want to do anything because she thought there'd be some sort of competition involved and she hates that.

Do you want him to learn a skill, or improve on a skill (e.g. swimming club), or do you want him to do a more social activity? I've tried to get dd1 to swimming club but she hates the idea (she's a good swimmer) but she's started going to orchestra with a friend, and that's a social activity as well as improving on a skill.

Do any of his friends do anything he might like to do too?

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