He simply doesn't do anything properly and it's driving me insane.
For the record he doesn't do any housework or clothes washing or cooking, all he does is helps with washing up/drying up in the evening after work or helps with bathing DS (one of us clears kitchen up whilst the other baths him) - which I am totally fine with, he works, I don't, I'm on maternity leave with DS who is 8 months old.
Ok my issues. These are all really stupid & petty things but they're just a few of the hundreds of examples of things that I feel is unfair or verging on disrespectful? Not sure if they are the words I want to use or not.
Yesterday he knocked over the airer with our wet clothes on. So he picked it up and reassembled it. Great. But all the clothes had slid to one end and he didn't re-straighten them so they didn't dry and are all wrinkly (we don't iron anything). The bath mat was on the floor in a heap so didn't dry and was all misshapen. When we both worked he'd do washing so knows they need to go on straight before anyone says maybe he doesn't know.
He forgets to rinse the bath out after he has a bath so then I have to scrub the bath the next day, which is frustrating when I've cleaned the bathroom that day.
Yesterday I washed the bedding. He was sitting on the mattress. I put duvet cover on and pillow cases on. All was left was bed sheet, I asked him to do it when he next gets up. He does, but it's inside out.
Sometimes he'll make DS's bottles up. He'll boil kettle and forget when he did it, so doesn't know if the water is hot enough, or he'll start pouring the water into them, one will have 7 oz, one 9oz, then walk away, and forget when he started it all so then I have to start the process again. When DS was first born he made bottles lots so knows how to make them.
Or on the odd chance he cooks, so once so far this year whilst I was building DS's wardrobe and storage unit. He made sausage and chips. He couldn't remember when he put the chips in the oven so didn't know when he needed to put the sausages in cue burnt chips, raw sausages and nothing else. (He can cook, before DS we'd both share cooking and he'd make curries, casseroles, spag bol, pasta bakes etc)
I don't want him to do anything extra around the house but what he does do I just want him to do properly. I mentioned this to him and he said 'Fine I just won't do anything then'. I left the room and he told me to grow up.
If he needed to do something to do with his hobby, or to do with his mates, he'd put the effort in there. But for me or DS he doesn't.
AIBU to think he's got it quite easy and actually it's a bit ridiculous that he puts no effort into doing the tiny amount of stuff he does do to do it right? Or AIBU and I should give him a break?
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To want DH to put a bit more effort in?
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Hobby2014 · 02/05/2015 11:11
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