My friend was with a guy for about 3 years. He was controlling and mentally abusive. When the relationship broke down she confirmed our suspicions about him being controlling and a lot of things came out of the woodwork. She has been distraught about the relationship breaking down for the past 2 years.
This all came to a head where she broke down one night about a year ago and basically had a go at every single one of us in our friendship groups for being happy in relationships. We got over this after a few weeks and she never mentioned him again as we had made our feelings very clear.
A few weeks ago she dropped a bomb shell that she was back with him and said 'don't say anything but just be happy for me.' We have all just nodded and smiled as we don't want to end our friendship over this controlling man.
Skip forward to today, we have arranged a night out on Saturday. This was arranged in December. She has txt everyone saying she's not coming due to a money thing and she doesn't want to leave him in the house on his own.
I have replied basically saying it's a joke and history is repeating itself, as previously he wouldn't let her go out or we had to give 3 months notice then she would still cancel.
We have been arguing now and she is saying 'I should be happy for her cause she is happy.'
Aibu, should we accept this relationship. I'm worried history is repeating itself and this is the first straw to be broken .
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Gummygummygumdrops · 16/02/2015 17:26
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