I have three children - DD(6), DS1 (3) and DS2 (9 months). DD has always been quite "hard work" for want of a better word. Often described as "spirited" and such like. Very mature and articulate, but also very emotional and prone to bursts of temper.
It's been a tough time for our family recently. I had such bad post-partum depression and anxiety that I was placed in a day treatment program for 3 weeks. I am recovering but it's been hard. I think we've been pretty good at shielding the kids from my misery but maybe we didn't do as good a job as I had hoped.
This academic year DD has struggled socially. She is not at all a girly girl and would take climbing the monkey bars over playing dolls any day of the week. The school she is in is very small - only 50 kids in the year, 18 in her class, 8 of them girls. They are primarily very quiet girls (I'm the Girl Scout troop leader so I know most of them quite well ) and she often says that she hadn't met any friends who are "a good fit" (DD's words, not mine.)
Anyway, long story short - she has been behaving particularly badly recently -extremely rough with DS1 and she told him over the weekend, when frustrated with him, that she wanted to kill him . When I disciplined her, she said "I want to do the same to you." We talked with her at length about how we never use those words and about appropriate ways of getting our frustration out.
So today I got a call from school. DD was annoyed with someone about some Legos and told them she wanted to kill them.
I just don't know what to do. I don't know why she's so angry all the time. She is fixated on the idea that DS1 is favored over her (he isn't, although he's generally more pleasant to be around) but other than treat them fairly and reassure her that I love her dearly, I'm running out of options.
I'm considering taking her to a therapist. DH is concerned but thinks I'm overreacting. I am very worried that there could be an underlying mental health issue at play. If anyone has any ideas I'd love to hear them.
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Mickeysmonkey · 10/02/2015 23:17
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