My eldest is in year 2. Also in her class is another pupil who seems to consistently strive to hurt and upset her peers. The behaviour has been ongoing since the children were toddlers and the other child's nanny used to bring her to toddler group. When they were little, the behaviour was things like pushing, scratching, etc, but also things like following a child until they down their special comfort item grabbing it, refusing to give it back. Even when she was very young, her behaviours seemed calculated to cause maximum distress.
Years on, there is still kicking, pushing, scratching, and slapping. But also things like telling another child she would sneak into her house and hurt her new baby brother. Or saying "my teddies can come alive at night and you better leave your light on or they will come to your house and kill you". Really disturbing stuff.
It doesn't seem to be a case where any (obvious) SN are involved. Each day, one child or another will come home in tears or hurt by something this child has done. The school are well aware, parents have notified them in writing of many incidents, and escalating their complaints to the governers. Other parents have spoken to the child's parents, asking them to intervene and sometimes turning into shouting matches in the school yard. The only thing that seems to have changed is that the child is dropped off and collected separately to all the others so that she and her parents don't come into contact with other parents. Some of the parents have instructed their kids to hit back if they are hurt by the girl.
Unfortunately, being a small village, there is only one school. One family actually moved to get their child away from this girl. The rural location also means that most kids join the same outside activities, so the bullying happens there too.
I just don't see how anything will ever change. I'm sure the school has tried to address the behaviour, but nothing has changed in the 3 years all the kids have gone there. Unless she moves house, it feels like the kids(and parents) are always going to be worried about being hurt at school. Do kids grow out of this kind of behaviour if it's been going on for so long? Is this just a part of school life that the kids have to get used to?
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whothehellknows · 17/01/2015 12:58
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