I have a 2yo and a 7yo. The 2 year old has never slept through the night, has no common sense, throws wobblies at a moment's notice and is very demanding. BUT she is also cuddly and affectionate and easily distracted, and at that magical age where she learns something new every day.
My 7yo on the other hand seems to have morphed overnight into a stroppy teen. He ignores me, snaps at me and pushes me away. I know he's tired and has homework and is finding his identity, but sometimes I just want my sweet little boy back. He does still like me to sit with him for a bit at bedtime, so I do that in the hope of staying connected...
I know aibu isn't really the place to ask for encouragement, but if anyone can tell me that 8yr olds suddenly become lovely again, I'd really appreciate it.
I think my issue is that everyone makes a big deal of 2 being tough, so I've been prepared, but I didn't know 7 would be so difficult!
My 7 year old boy was a total nightmare for about a year - tantrums, strops etc, but he's gorgeous again now....DS2 is just starting to go through it, and in due course DS3 will no doubt, too. DD is also turning 10 and getting very moody and hormonal every month..deep joy.
Just keep repeating it's a phase, and this too shall pass.....!
My Ds went through what you are describing 6/7 When he started juniors it all stopped. Much better behaviour. Much more wants cuddles.
Thinking back things that helped.
I did a reward pocket money..loss 10- for every inappropriate behaviour which were clearly laid down..Crying if he hasn't got his own way, tantrums...I have to say it worked.
I also gave a little bit more..They want to be grown up but aren't. Let him do something he/she doesn't already like use the hob, I now let mine play on the street with strict rules..He feels more like he is treated as a grown up..That said I have gone back to supervising him bushing his teeth as it turned out he stopped using toothpaste
Hmmm. Not sure. I have two seven year olds who can strop for their country when so inclined. But that's offset by the practicalities been a lot easier to deal with. Two two year olds nearly brought me to my knees.
They're very competitive about absolutely everything cuddles, so I don't miss out on those.