Hi just want to express my thoughts, I find mn a really good place to do that.
I have one or two lovely friends in my life at the moment. We are close but not really close but I feel grateful to know them
The strange thing is I have lost a couple of friendships with people who I felt would be in my life forever and I have been left thinking what have I done wrong.
One friend would call me for coffee and a chat and ring me to talk. We were providing each other with mutual support or so I thought over separate issues in our own lives both of which were fortunately resolved. I felt like I was a good friend to this person and likewise was really fond of her. Then we had a meet up with some other friends and I discovered she was getting married and she hadn't told me let alone invited me to the wedding. It just seemed really bizarre and I was left wondering what I had done wrong.
The other friend also was a good listening ear to me but in return also seemed to really open up in my company and she told me things about herself that I'm sure very few people would know. I thought we had loads in common. Then I became pregnant and after my dc was born it felt like I had been dropped like a brick. I wonder sometimes if having my dc was difficult for her as she had experienced a mc, she seemed happy to support me through the fertility issues I was experiencing, they both did but then as soon as things came right it was like they didn't want to know. It's really strange being dumped so unofficially it's like our friendship was never properly ended or the reasons why talked about and I think that's what makes it so hard to get over I'm left with that what have I done wrong feeling.
I know that I have to go on to form new friendships etc but feel really let down and a bit silly for trusting so much. weirdly despite being let down I also miss chats over cups of coffee with these ladies and the closeness I thought we once shared. I have a dysfunctional family ie siblings aren't close to me, parents separated so I do value my friendships.
anyone experienced similar?
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monkeytree · 07/01/2015 20:14
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