To ask for stories of hope re getting pregnant

[Whowillsaveyoursoul]

I know there's probably lots of people who are told they can't get pregnant and don't but I'm just looking for a ray of new year's hope.
Dh has hopeless sperm and we've been told our only chance is icsi. We've tried this now, twice, but no good and now looking at using donor embryos. But I'm not sure I can go through with it.
We've been ttc for 2 years. I'm 31 so not that old fertility wise.

Any stories of hope?

[LePetitMarseillais]

7-10 years ttc with everything male and female in the infertility text book. Had started looking into adoption.Last frozen IVF/ICSI when I was 35 resulted in twins, dd conceived naturally followed a year later.

[Writerwannabe83]

A couple I know tried TTC for 4 years and their last chance at IVF ended with twins. That was two years ago and the woman is now 7m pregnant with a baby that was conceived naturally. It came as quite a shock to them both

[PermedOwlOfVeronica]

Ttc'd for a couple of years (me early 30s). Found out DH had very low/virtually no sperm count and was referred to get our place on the waiting list for NHS ICSI. Promptly got pregnant on the single time we had sex that month, far too late after ovulation according to my cycle tracking.

We're now 4.5 years of trying for no 2 so it looks like we will have to start saving for ICSI but it does just take one sperm. Never let go of the hope.

[Babyroobs]

We were told there was very little chance of getting pregnant due to very scarred tubes and adhesions naturally and were due to start IVF. had a lap & dye and got pregnant the next time we dtd. Went on to have 4 babies in seven years ( last 2 unplanned !!).

[Steben]

Not personally but I have had friends (3) who have all had severe problems and in some cases multiple miscarriages - in all 3 they felt hopeless yet all three now have DC - I don't know if that is a comfort or not but one was a woman with severe issues and they finally got there little boy in April

[Steben]

Their

[MrsMarcJacobs]

yes,my friend who took 4 years to conceive her child after 3 rounds of IVF, conceived naturally a second child very quickly - the doctors had told her the chance of that was virtually zero. In fact, all of my friends who were told their situations were fairly hopeless have gone on to have at least 2 children.

[Carrierpenguin]

Ivf worked for me, would your dh consider using donor sperm with your eggs if you're ok fertility wise? I think it's much simpler than donor embryos, you can choose an anonymous donor at London sperm bank?

[edwinbear]

Close friends of mine tried for 3-4 years, they had one miscarriage after an unassisted conception, a further m/c after a successful round of IVF, an unsuccessful round of IVF but are now due in the new year. She is over 40 and he had issues with sperm mobility. It was so very tough for them but we are all waiting with baited breath for this new arrival.

[switswoo81]

3 years of ttc, had 3 miscarriages in the next year. Fertility tsets and genetic testing for losses came back clear.got pregnant naturally while deciding what next step was
Currently 35 weeks and praying I'll meet this baby. Good luck

[noonoos78]

12 years ttc. female issues. 3 missed miscarriages.

gave up after 10 IVFs and adopted 2 wonderful little ones

urge to extend our family returned - and on our 13th go of IVF our LO arrived....we are poor but complete....(maybe )

[inconceivableme]

I know someone who conceived twins on her 8th round of IVF. All the previous attempts ended either with no pregnancy or in miscarriage.
There were fertility issues with both her and her husband.

I know two other couples with 'bad' sperm who have two children each after ICSI.

I have one child from IVF (1st attempt) after 2 years TTC and unexplained infertility and ovulatory PCOS. We hope for a second but I miscarried in November following an initially successful frozen embryo cycle.

Wishing you all the best!

[catgirl1976]

A friend a work had recently had a perfect little baby girl after several failed attempts at IVF and years of trying, tests and heart break.

DH and I took over a year to conceive DS

DSIS was told she probably couldn't have children due to very bad endometriosis. My 5 month old DNephew would disagree with that prognosis.

Good luck

[mutternutter]

Well I was told 0.25% chance of getting pregnant with my toddler. 0% of live healthy baby. Little one now snuggled up to me snoozing. I didn't give up hope and neither should you. I was a hell of a lot older too!

[Bunbaker]

DD arrived 3 days after our 19th wedding anniversary!

[whatsinanamearose]

I was told that my chances of conceiving after having my dd, were next to zero (due to severe pcos, which they discovered upon getting out dd. They were entirely shocked I had even managed to be pregnant) I spent 10 years heartbroken, my relationship failed because of it and when I finally got over it well thought I had I met the man of my dreams, and while we never actually planned a child officially, we both agreed if it happened, it happened. It was a quick start relationship, and we married after just 6 months. To be fair, I really didn't want either of us to get our hopes up regarding having a baby. 4 months later, bfp!!!
My best friend suffered with acute endometriosis and couldn't conceive naturally. Her and her dh tried IVF 7 times, they couldn't afford another attempt, and she resigned to having a hysterectomy as she was 40 anyway. Upon the pre op ultrasound to look for general complications prior to a laparoscopy, they discovered a happy, naturally conceived ds!!!
Another friend had one cycle of IVF and went into hermit mode around 6 weeks later. No one saw or heard from her despite numerous attempts to get hold of her. We all assumed it had been a failed IVF attempt and she was grieving. However, she proudly emerged 8 months later with a beautiful dd!!!
I'm not saying there is always joy, but there is always hope. Good luck

[angeltreats]

I'm the story all your irritating fertile friends like to harp on about, thinking they're being helpful.

TTC for 18 months, found out after a year that we had useless sperm and hardly any of them, and ICSI was the only hope. I had huge problems coming to terms with this and kept putting it off. I was in a very bad place this time last year and struggled to even get out of bed in the mornings I was so down. In December 2013, husband had a varicocele repair procedure as the consultant thought it might improve his sperm quality slightly (but not significantly) and maybe improve the chances of fertilisation. Three months later I had a surprise BFP and our baby was born in November.

I doubt very much we'd be lucky enough to conceive naturally a second time and I still can't believe our baby is here.

[LapsedTwentysomething]

YANBU to ask at all, but don't let this consume you.

I have PCOS, DH low motility / morphology. We had two failed rounds of IVF (no reason why - too grade embryos each time) followed by two pregnancies after we gave up because we couldn't afford to find ourselves.

[LapsedTwentysomething]

top grade embryos.

[bahfinghumbug]

9 years of ttc , Doctors wouldn't take any notice of me due to my age (just turned 27) & I finally found someone to take notice of me last June & then mid August realised I were pregnant currently 27 weeks gone & due in March .

Never got to have any tests or anything done so never found out if their is/was anything wrong

[kwerty]

Many of my friends had trouble conceiving for various reasons; all went on to have at least 2 children. We had DTs aften 10 years married. I have a young friend whose marriage broke up due to fertility problems which she was told were female ones; she became pregnant after a one night stand and now has her darling one year old son.Don't give up hope.

[CMOTDibbler]

My friend had TTC for 10 years with absolutely no success. Aged 45, and having given up hope long ago, she had a beautiful little boy with no intervention.

[BabyDubsEverywhere]

We tried for 12 months and then went for tests. The doctors said that DH sperm count was low and slow, and I had scarring on my uterus from previous miscarriage with my exdh. They said it wasn't impossible for either of us to have a dc, but that the odds of conceiving together were non existent! They told us to go away and come back when we were over 30 and married to start IVF!
We moved countries, set up new lives, pushed the idea of DC deep down inside...
6 months later we conceived DS1!
started trying for a second straight away as we'd heard about the increased fertility at that time.. it worked, DD1 born 14 months after DS.
We tried again, immediately for a third... 3 years later I still hadn't caught, DH went to the doctors for further tests and they told him his count didn't even register anymore and to be happy with the two we had. SO we were... 6 months later we conceived DS2!! and then 21 months later DD2 was born too!

Hes had a vasectomy now, but as they wont sign off until mid Jan and we have beaten all the other odds, a part of me wonders if theres one more to come :D

[avocadotoast]

My auntie & uncle were trying for their baby for about 15 years (at least; I think that's only how long they'd been having fertility treatment).

They ended up using a donor egg (after many rounds of IVF) and now have a beautiful little girl who's basically our family's miracle baby.

I suppose it's different for your DH if you use donor sperm (as in, I mean my auntie carried the baby and gave birth to her despite using a donor egg, so she always felt like hers IYSWIM, whereas I guess some people could feel less involved if donor sperm was used). But it's always an option worth considering