for not calling the police(9 Posts)
Yesterday at around 7pm I decided to pop to my local tescos (its literally a 5 minute walk from my house) just at the top of my road. On my return home I saw two people running but didn't think much of it, they were quite far away from me so couldn't really make out what was happening. As I got closer I noticed a motorbike laying flat on the floor I thought it was odd but didn't see anyone around so continued to walk towards my building, when two men ran out from behind the corner. They were fighting then one of the men ran and the other man chased him. I hurried quick towards my building, I had my 3 children with me. The man that was doing the chasing them came walking back my way he was shouting and swearing (not at me) I think he lost the man. I then walked towards my building and saw another man standing there I carried on walking as I was too scared to go inside. I believe this is to do with one of the men who live in my building asI've heard arguments and banging coming from he's house before also I've seen the men leaving the other mans flat before my area is a very rough area, in fact I believe this man is dealing drugs from certain things ive witnessed. I called my mum and went to stay there. My mum and sister both said they would have called the police but I don't agree. Firstly I was the only person there (although there were two cars who had stopped) I was the only person walking by so it would be obvious it was me. Secondly I am vulnerable being a single mum to 3 children under 4 I would be scared it would come back on me. Third the man seemed to have got away anyway. Aibu for not getting involved?
Calling the police isn't getting involved. You can call anonymously. And if they were near your building shouting then they could assume another resident called.
Being a mum shouldn't absolve you of social responsibility.
fad surely you'd want the drug dealer arrested rather than living near your children
You'll probably get some people saying yabu, but I can totally understand where you are coming from. It sounds very scary for you, and I think we all try to put safe walls around our children first and foremost.
years ago, when I was single, I reported a major (large) drug deal that was going on outside my front door. The police came, and everyone involved got arrested. I spent weeks worrying about the repercussions, as my flat was the only one overlooking the area - but it turned out there was a major sting going on that day, with arrests all over the city, so I got away with it.
Maybe you could contact the police and tell them what you know, and also tell them how worried you are about the safety of your family. I think they will probably be able to use your information in a way that won't get you into trouble.
I hated living in an unsafe building, with dealers everywhere - and I didn't have children at the time! is there any way you can move?
If they were drug dealers I can't imagine that they even registered you walking by let alone knew who you were. If you do call (and you still can) it's likely your call will be logged as intelligence which can help in arrests. You don't need to leave your details but if you did the police aren't going to come to your door or say who called
I've reported him to the council before... They said they are aware of the trouble at his address and had a meeting about it that was September and its no different.. Yes I do feel in putting myself and children at risk. It was dark so don't know if anyone else seen from the building.
This is just the tip of the ice berg with the problems in the building. I've had the man tell me and my kids to "shut the fuck up" when I passed he's house (I bump my pram up the stairs) I've been trying to move but the council are less than helpful.
I lived in a sketchy area, and you learn you don't call the police. For starters the police will show up at your door to get a report, and neighbors would see it. It would not always just be a phone call.
Second and most important, the police will not arrest just on your report, so then the people that did it are still loose and know who the nark is.
I'm not saying don't call the police, but that it's certainly not a black and white issue. You have your kids to think about, and the law does not always protect or arrest when they should.
I would however start looking at options to move into a better area. You don't want your children living in an area like that. As they get older they might get involved with some of that activity.
The police won't turn up at the OPs door. For a report like that there's no need to see the caller. She can do it anonymously or if she leaves her name cam say she's to be contacted by phone only. Realistically they're not going to come out and start arresting someone her call is more likely to be used as intelligence.
even IF the police did call out she's not going to be known as a 'nark' if they don't go to the neighbours door. She could have had them out for a multitude of reasons.
OP either call anonymously or check your local Police Forces website. They usually have a contact us section where you can report things. Or alternatively call Cromestoppers they don't need your details there either
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