I don't know what to do anymore. I'm nearly 24, live with my alcoholic mother and her boyfriend and have had a miserable life. It never gets better and it never ends. I have always been an outsider, grew up with my mother and her abusive boyfriend who she is still with (I live with them). As a child i was extremely anxious and fearful, my social anxiety started at 7. I comfort ate and was always a fat kid. My father was always critical of me and is one of the reasons why I have issues around food and feeling ashamed. I started having panic attacks constantly in school at 11, and couldn't take anymore, so took 4 overdoses between 13-14 and had some tutoring at an education centre.
I always saw the other kids and wished I could be a part of their family, a loving, stable family with a mum and a dad. I knew my mother could never give me this, so I've always been very maternal and knew I wanted children and to get married.
Unfortunately my social anxiety continued throughout my teens and I spent all of those years friendless and housebound, depressed. I have had all kinds of therapy since I was 12, psychologists, psychiatrists, psychotherapists, occupational therapists.
I have never been in a relationship, never had a job, still a virgin and desperate for a family. I was diagnosed with endometriosis last year and I feel like the odds are always stacked against me. I would make a great mother, I would be supportive and loving, understanding because of everything that I've been through. Being a mother would be the making of me. I just don't understand why i'm so unlucky, why do I always get the short straw? I just feel so hopeless, I feel like my life is some cruel joke. I'm a kind, thoughtful and loyal person. I would do anything for anyone and love to help people. I just don't understand why life is so unfair.
It doesn't help when I bump into all the girls I went to school with in town with their children, or with their partners. Again, I'm an outsider. Will I ever get a change to be on the inside?
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fedup91 · 03/12/2014 17:14
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