How to deal with this piss taker of a friend

[CatLady25]

we work in a bar together at night, i drop her home and she sorts me Petrol money.
Couple weeks ago i said i will come get her as i wanted to leave my house i had an argument so i got her and we went to work together.

Now because she is near my house (in a bad traffic town about 25mins away) she is messaging and ringing me asking me to come pick her up and drop her home and we can go to work together from her house.
Ive been ignoring her but what would you say?

She did this a few weeks ago i told her i was going to BnQ next day and messaged me asking if i went to which i said yes and she asked if i can leave my house again to take her homebase.

She lives in SE london and i live in SW so we dont live near each other.

Its pissing me off she thinks im her personal taxi ride, even dropping her home is long sometimes as im tired as fuk after work and she sometimes hangs around to have a fag and chat!

[FunkyBoldRibena]

'Hi - am busy right now. See you at x oclock'

[blendedfamilygrinch]

Just say no?
If dropping her home works for you (she's giving you petrol money & traffic not too awful) then carry that on but tell her you need to leave as soon as you finish work.
Say sorry, but taking her to work/homebase isn't convenient & you'll see her there.
Sounds like (she thinks) you are friends & you don't mind giving her lifts rather than she's pisstaking.
Just draw the line of what you're happy to do.

[Quitelikely]

Just say nope, sorry haven't got time xx

Repeat. Always. She will soon get the picture.

[Tinks42]

Firstly, she's not a friend, she's a co-worker. I have no idea what you're getting so annoyed about, just tell her you can't.

[CatLady25]

I feel shes taking the piss wanting lifts home because she ended up near my area.

[Tinks42]

She's asking due to it being convenient for her, its up to you to say no though if its not for you. You don't have to secretly resent things and do them, the word no if fine to use.

[Tinks42]

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[pilates]

All you need to say is sorry this lift sharing isn't work out for me. Just be honest.

[FunkyBoldRibena]

She lives in SE london and i live in SW so we dont live near each other

I feel shes taking the piss wanting lifts home because she ended up near my area.

So do you live near each other or don't you?

If you don't want to give her a lift say no when she asks. If she doesn't ask, leave work and drive home. If she just follows you, turn around and say 'erm what are you doing? I need to get straight home tonight, see you next week'.

[FunkyBoldRibena]

p.s...it's not lift sharing if she isn't doing any driving.

[CatLady25]

She isnt far but she isnt near either. My area is SW Ldn.
You are right it is kind of making me resent because i feel i cannot do her a favour without her asking for more but yes i will just tell her no from now on

[Tinks42]

[Aeroflotgirl]

Catlady have you read the lift thread? It's very funny. You don't even have to give her a lift if you don't want. Sounds a hassle!

[Mrsgrumble]

I get your predicament - but all you have to say is it suits you to drop her hme but not collect (if you et to give a reason say you often go to work straight from visiting, shopping, gym or whatever)

I don't think friend is a pisstaker on a big scale but chancing her arm

[Electriclaundryland]

In London even a mile away can take ages in traffic, but public transport is good. Let her sort herself out if it doesn't work for you.

[raltheraffe]

I am not from London, but I do remember when I once went from North to South London in my car. I may have gone the wrong way, probably did, but the entire trip took 5 hours and I was stuck in a jam for about 4 hours of that. It was dreadful.

The problem is it is not just the petrol money, it is all the time spent in the car, especially at the end of a shift when you are tired.

I would tell her you cannot do any more lifts and give her the number of a taxi firm.

[raltheraffe]

Electric is right, public transport in London is brilliant. Last time I got on a Salford bus, a drunkard assaulted me! Pretty standard for where I live