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to be upset at my parents' refusal to skype?

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AllOutOfNaiceHam Wed 26-Nov-14 18:25:12

I moved away from germany and my entire family to live in the UK.
My mother is forever complaining that she doesn't see our children enough and basically relies on me to email her photos every few days, the odd video recording, and phone them with updates. My mum never phones me, neither does my stepdad who brought me up, but they are happy to talk on the phone for hours when I call.
They have smartphones and computers and all that jazz, but every time I suggest Skype following one of my mum's laments about how she would love to see my children while she is talking to them I get told "skype is not safe", and they would rather carry on like this.
She's never met my 11 month old, and last saw my 3 & 5 year olds 18 months ago, and they are always asking to see photos of her. They also love to skype with my father on the odd occasion that we do.

I can't quite get them to tell me what they mean by "skype is not safe". The stasi is not listening anymore, and even if anyone was listening, it's not like we talk about earth shattering stuff.. And as far as I'm aware people don't make a habit of hijacking your smartphones through skype, although I may well be wrong there.

AIBU to be upset about this? What else can I do?

amyhamster Wed 26-Nov-14 18:26:51

I'd leave it tbh
Some people don't like Skype
Why don't you take your kids over to see them ? Maybe for Xmas ?

chocolatescones Wed 26-Nov-14 18:41:18

My parents weren't keen on Skype until they tried it once now they love it and we do it most days I'm off work with DD, can you just say to them to try it once and they don't have to again?

Topseyt Wed 26-Nov-14 18:41:55

Leave it. You can't force them, frustrating though it is. They have probably heard a few too many scare stories about Skype, which are often embellished beyond recognition.

They may come round to your way of thinking, but only in their own time I suppose.

I have parents who wouldn't touch a computer, smartphone or other electronic gadget with a barge pole. No emails for them, snail mail post only. Mentioning Skype would draw bemusement and blank stares from them. They are quite happy though to ask me or my sister to look stuff up online for them though.

I guess with your mum and stepdad there is an outside possibility that they will cotton onto the likes of Skype. Where my parents are concerned though, pigs are more likely to fly first.

AllOutOfNaiceHam Wed 26-Nov-14 18:42:11

We can't for various reasons. The main one being lack of passports for my husband and 11 month old, but also work and money. They are right at the bottom of the country so it's a long drive, or some very expensive flights for all of us.
I would love to, and am incredibly homesick every year around christmas, but it's just not feasible. sad

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