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AIBU?

Had enough...

31 replies

Keepswimming123 · 18/11/2014 22:46

Stupidly went back to the boyfriend's house this eve, he was obviously pissed. I wasn't. He went bonkers when his house mate came back (he is 36!!!) and shouted at me, and grabbed me by the wrists and literally put me out of the house. Aibu to block his number and never speak to him again?

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gamerchick · 18/11/2014 22:47

Back story?

phoolani · 18/11/2014 22:48

No.

TheHappinessTrap · 18/11/2014 22:50

no, that's exactly what you may do. 2) nothing else, even in a back story, matters.

StillSquirrelling · 18/11/2014 22:50

Who shouted and grabbed you? BF or housemate?

TheHappinessTrap · 18/11/2014 22:51

1)no, that's what you must do. 2) nothing else matters.

Keepswimming123 · 18/11/2014 22:51

We were engaged. Been together for three years or so. I moved out because I was sick of his drinking and my dad died. Long story, I am still living with my mum atm. I have a good job with steady income, he doesn't. Haven't seen him properly for the last fortnight, he met me this eve, was rather unsteady on his feet, etc. Then kicked off at me once I got to his flat so I had to get a taxi home... Something tells me I should chuck the engagement ring down the loo!

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WorraLiberty · 18/11/2014 22:53

This doesn't even need a back story

It needs explaining

Sorry but on its own it makes little sense

Keepswimming123 · 18/11/2014 22:53

Bf/f grabbed me. Also kicked me. If I am being honest, I kicked him back out of shock!!! Never thought I would end up like this!!! Makes ne feel ick.

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LaurieFairyCake · 18/11/2014 22:54

Sell the ring, buy something nice

Dump the wank badger

LaurieFairyCake · 18/11/2014 22:55

And also consider it a lucky escape

You could have married the fucker!

WorraLiberty · 18/11/2014 22:55

In that case YANBU

isseywithcats · 18/11/2014 22:55

dont chuck the ring down the loo cash it in buy yourself something nice and get rid of a guy who will treat you like that pronto

FreudiansSlipper · 18/11/2014 22:56

you kicked him to defend yourself

it will only get worse

please try not to meet with him so he can explain himself there is no need for him to do so this does not need talking over

ImperialBlether · 18/11/2014 22:56

You have had a narrow escape! Can you clearly see now what he's like?

Keepswimming123 · 18/11/2014 22:58

So been together for about three years, engaged, blah blah blah. He is going nowhere, no steady job, no savings etc. Ex addict. I moved out when my dad died to be with my mum. I have a bloody stressful job. Haven't really felt inclined to see him recently. This eve, thought it would be different. He met me, I was doing my fave hobby (don't wanna say what for fear of outtage), we went home, all fine, he was obv pissed. Then his house mate came home, I may have tutted, or sighed inadvertently. He went nuts, grabbed my wrists and turfed me out. Had to pay £20 for a taxi home. Better off without, right?

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ExitPursuedByABear · 18/11/2014 23:00

Right.

Keepswimming123 · 18/11/2014 23:00

Sorry, just seen replies. Don't know why I am so surprised, he's done this before... Anyway, any ideas that I can do with a £750 (cheap bastard) ex engagement ring???

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Keepswimming123 · 18/11/2014 23:02

Having read that back I can now a appreciate pursued by a bear's comment...

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formerbabe · 18/11/2014 23:15

£750 for an engagement ring doesn't sound so cheap considering he has no steady job or savings does it?!

Oh and leave him, obviously!

DoJo · 18/11/2014 23:19

He sounds like an unmitigated wanker and the fact that he was physically aggressive with you is absolutely unacceptable. If you read the relationship boards, there are plenty of people who wished they had got out at the stage you are at. One thing is certain - it isn't going to get better from here on in...

nocoolnamesleft · 19/11/2014 01:13

Don't walk away. Run.

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/11/2014 01:16

Ex addict... Clearly not so ex. Alcohol is going to be or is his next drug of choice. Well rid.

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Whocansay · 19/11/2014 08:03

Give the ring back to him. Post it through his letterbox when he's out. Then he has no reason to kick off and you can walk away with your head held high.

Block his number from your phone.

WD41 · 19/11/2014 08:09

I would also give the ring back (don't think it was cheap though!) that way he has no reason to hassle you

Then yes, block his number and thank your lucky stars you don't live together or have children with him

Good luck

skylark2 · 19/11/2014 08:10

"Aibu to block his number and never speak to him again?"

I'm bemused that you even need to ask the question. Why would you want to speak to someone who is physically abusive?

And £750 is an extremely expensive engagement ring, not a cheap one.

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