AIBU to stop all visits to and from my parents since we just do not seem to get on? Its a long story and they both struggle with substance abuse like alcohol and sedatives but the behavior of my mother makes me feel like its so hard to ever want to see them again.
My parents live about a eight hour flight away and last year I visited them for a couple of months with my DD (first grand child). I find it hard to be around my mother who as my DH describes it as "reverting back to a teenager". Every few days she gets upset about something and won't talk to anyone for a day or so. Sometimes a week. So I find myself at their house sitting in silence. My parents still have huge screaming arguments just like when I was growing up. I am out pushing the buggy as they get quite heated and the police are even called on occasion. My DD is under 2 so I try and keep her from it.
Recently my mother has come to visit and about four days in we hit the first upset and she will spend days on the sofa watching the tv and she won't speak to DH, DD and I. Last month I have just wanted to avoid coming home every day. It them blows over but once again another door slamming/shouting the house down at us and blanking us. The strops end in her on the phone loudly shouting to my father/friends of hers and even if I apologize (topics to get her to ignore us for days have been things like: no hot water, hairdryer stopped working, asked her if we can turn the tv off during dinner) she still sits on the sofa and won't speak to me.
I feel like I am constantly battling with wanting them to have a relationship with DD but then when I am around them more than a few days it always ends in my mother getting upset and we have to avoid the downstairs til it blows over in a few days and my father just sits in silence as he doesn't want to get involved (as it will end in them knocking a whole in my wall while fighting about it). I am starting to feel like either I need to only stay in a hotel when visiting them or stop seeing them.
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photographerlady · 18/11/2014 16:47
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