This is my first post on MN, sorry if I break any rules! I'm going to try to be as vague as possible - although it'll probably be quite lengthy...
I have been friends with "Sarah" for 13 years, we grew up together and see each other at least twice a week.
Recently I have become worried about her money situation, or her lack of. She used her free student overdraft facility while at university (as many people do, including me) then, when she graduated, she got a job. The overdraft facilities for students aren't huge, we both only had £500 to help cover rent etc. I managed to get myself out of my overdraft within a couple of months, but every time we ever met up she would express concern about her lack of money. It never stopped her wanting to buy things or go out for a meal so I presumed it was okay, she was just moaning a bit.
This was two years ago and she has gone back to university and last week I had a big talk with her about her finances. It turns out she never got out of her overdraft, and as her free overdraft facility has expired now, she is paying fees every month. I am really worried about her as she didn't seem to realise that this was a bad situation at all. She still spends money she doesn't really have on clothes / food and visits her boyfriend in London every 2/3 weeks. I said she should open another student bank account with a free overdraft as she is a student again, and at least this would mean she wasn't losing ~£30 a month on fees, but she has done nothing about this yet, and still, last night when I cooked her dinner (so she wouldn't suggest going out for a meal) she still brought round expensive wine and had bought a new coat for the winter.
I'm so worried about her, she lives with her parents currently, but how will she ever be able to move out or look after herself if this is her attitude to money? I am concerned that she has not been in the black financially since before she was a student originally.
AIBU to be concerned and want to help her out (not by giving her money), or should I butt out and leave her to realise her issues herself? I really care about her and it makes me sad that she doesn't realise this is a bad situation to be in.
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To be worried about my friend's financial situation?
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windymila · 14/11/2014 11:41
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