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To be irritated by MIL constantly asking me what she should wear?

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MsQuoted Thu 30-Oct-14 17:57:07

We're on holiday with MIL. We are somewhere very cold with lots of snow.

I'm incredibly fond of MIL but every time we've been getting ready to leave the house she asks me what sort of clothing she should wear. And it's starting to grate.

'Do you think I should wear a jumper?'

'Will I need my coat?'

'Shall I bring gloves?'

'Do you think I'll need a hat?'

Etc...

To all of which I want to reply:

'I DON'T FUCKING KNOW. YOU'RE A CAPABLE, INTELLIGENT WOMAN, WHY DO YOU NEED ME TO TELL YOU? AND WHY ARE YOU ASKING ME AND NOT DP? AND CAN'T YOU SEE IM TRYING TO WRESTLE A 10 MONTH OLD INTO A SNOWSUIT RIGHT NOW?!'

Just needed to let that out

Luckily, because we're on holiday I have lots of wine

hiddenhome Thu 30-Oct-14 17:59:57

Just shrug and say "you know best, it's your body".

Ohfourfoxache Thu 30-Oct-14 18:00:12

Oh dear.....

How much longer have you got to put up with it?

hiddenhome Thu 30-Oct-14 18:00:44

Or, just say "yes" to everything.

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks Thu 30-Oct-14 18:02:10

Aw. Is she widowed? how long has she been alone? Or if not, maybe she's trying to bond with you.

RonaldMcDonald Thu 30-Oct-14 18:03:03

There is a reason why she needs this reassurance
Try to find out why?

Charitybelle Thu 30-Oct-14 18:03:11

Haha smile
This made me chuckle. YABU, she's prob just chatting inanely as people do, my MIL does something similar, think shes trying to make me feel needed by consulting me on minor things, but I also find this maddening.

MsQuoted Thu 30-Oct-14 18:07:22

I don't think it's a bonding thing. I just think it's a personality trait thing. The indecisiveness is maddening.

I don't understand why she can't just look out of the window at all the snow and think 'yes, I'll probably need to wear a coat.'

Brassrubbing Thu 30-Oct-14 18:09:41

Ask her if she needs you to wrestle her into her snowsuit too...?

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks Thu 30-Oct-14 18:29:59

But has she got nobody else? Maybe her DH (if he's gone) and she were like this together...."Do you think I should wear a hat dear?" "Oh definitely...there's a real chill in the air!"

samesizetoes Thu 30-Oct-14 19:32:19

Oh I hate this, DH is always asks me questions like this, I'd wish he'd just make a desition for himself. I swear he does it just to try and blame me when its the wrong desition.

VileStatistyx Thu 30-Oct-14 19:35:37

what do you say in reply?

If you don't already, then I suggest you reply with a question

do you feel cold?
have you looked out of the window? Do you think it looks grey?
do you want to take gloves

and if she comes back with another question, then reply I am sure whatever you choose to do will be fine.

Sometimes people do this because to them it means if it is the wrong choice, it is the other person's fault/responsibility. I don't know if your mother in law is one of those or just a ditherer but whichever, the best way to deal with it is to insist that she is the one who makes the choice.

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks Thu 30-Oct-14 19:38:58

My DH is from Oz and he always asks "What's the temperature today?" and I'm like confused erm.....slightly breezy? A bit of a chill in the air?

We don't DO temps here do we unless they're extreme.

What he SHOULD ask if he were a Brit would be "Is it meant to be cold today then?" or "What's the weather doing today?"

FoxgloveFairy Thu 30-Oct-14 19:43:09

That's because us Aussies take a very evidence based, scientific approach to clothing selection. None of this slapdash hmmm, snow, maybe I need a coat nonsense.

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