I work part time in call centre so don't earn a lot. It's even worse just now as I am on maternity leave. My husband earns a good wage and I know we are very lucky to be fairly comfortable.
I have always keep my own bank account as I don't want my husband to see every penny I spend. I don't think he would ever tell me not to spend but I feel better having me own account.
However, over the last year I have found myself struggling each month. Some of the bills that I pay have went up and I'm feeling the squeeze. I can ask DH for money at any time and he will give it to me. I just hate having to ask. I already have to ask him to pay for all the food shops, clothes for the kids, days out. Apart from a few bills that come out of my account he pretty much pays for everything.
I feel I am constantly asking him for money for all the basic stuff and therefore don't want to ask him for money for anything else ( clothes for me, money to meet my friend for lunch, money for make up etc)
I'm feeling really low at the moment because of this. I know part of the reason is I have always felt like a failure for having such a low paid job and not being able to contribute as much as DH and I feel I just drain all the money coming in. We could have a much better lifestyle if I was more successful.
I also lost be chance of a promotion due to when my maternity leave was due to start and it is looking like I might not be able to return of work due to child care issues.
AIBU to hate the thought for having to spend the next 5 years living off my husbands money? Even if we get a joint account, I will always know I'm not paying anything in and just taking it out. I burst into tears every time I think about.
I should point out that my husband has no issue giving me money or getting a joint account. It's me that hates it.
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mostlyconfused · 14/06/2014 23:50
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