Hey there, just need some perspective. Will try to keep this brief.
I worked with someone for 2 years, we started at the same time so quickly became good friends as we bonded over being 'new' and then were both giving more responsibility etc, we would socialise outside of work a lot with our other workmates and just us two as well.
Two years ago, I moved to Australia.
Since then any conversation we've had has been by my initiation. I sent christmas cards and postcards and things like that, just so we would stay in contact. She never sent anything back but that is ok. I messaged her online and she would reply but would never start the conversation herself.
Anyway, last year a close family member was dying and I flew back to the UK to say my goodbye. I made sure I had one day to see friends, and we met as a large group which was really nice.
My close family member passed away. I messaged my friend a bit afterwards just saying what I was doing back in Aus and how he had died. She said she had heard he had died but didn't want to bother me at the time by sending me a message because 'I didn't want to interfere'. Kinda made me feel a bit forgotten but oh well, never mind.
Shortly afterwards, my 4 year relationship came to an end. Again, in one of my 'catch up' messages I told her this and she messaged back and said she was shocked etc, but nothing more.
She isn't great in keeping in contact. That is fine. I can accept that but then this morning I wake up to a message saying "Hey! How are you? How is Aus? You might've seen on FB I'm doing this run and i need sponsorship". . .etc sends me a link to send her money.
I probably will sponsor her cos she is doing it for charity and all but AIBU in wanting to tear my hair out that she only seems to want to message me when it benefits her? I probably am being U and I can accept that, just can't help feeling sad that we were good friends and now. . .blehh.
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crispsanddips · 29/03/2014 15:43
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