Me and dp both work- for a variety of reasons, not least financial.
I like my job. But I find myself dreaming of SAH sometimes, not on ideological grounds, or because it's better for the kids (I think there are arguments for both SAH and working in this regard). But simply because it is such a bloody nightmare/house of cards type scenario to get kids out of house and back in again, dropped off to and picked up from childcare/school etc.
And then every couple of weeks there's a fresh new layer of complexity: illness, strikes, inset days. Today I am attempting to work from home with a 1yo literally sat on me. He is perfectly fine but has an eye infection so can't go to childcare.
Then there's the 'I'm busy'/'I've got a meeting'/'I took half term off' back and forth with dp.
Working parents must seem shit to employers, there's always some unforeseen stumbling block forcing them to leave early or take time off. But little did I know before having kids, it's the tip of the icerberg! For every morning off for a child's docs appt, there's some complex and mysterious algorithm of grandparents and leave days and mates helping out, that means it's JUST half a day as not three whole days...
BAH!
AIBU?
To want to be a SAHM simply because of fecking logistics?
okthen · 27/03/2014 10:08
You need to look at the long-term picture. This is the most difficult time but it will get easier.
The most important thing is you enjoy your job, these are hard to come by and it will be even more difficult to get back into work if you pack it in now and decide to return in x years' time.
Don't give up and good luck. 
Try doing it as a single parent with no family support - it's even worse. 
But seriously, I really, really sympathise. I felt like a rubbish employee when my DTs were very small. When they were two, the longest I ever went without having to take a day off because one of the DTs were ill and the CM wouldn't take them was 2 weeks. Fortunately I was very good at my job, could work from home, and had the most lovely employer in the universe who was himself a father of four so knew what it was like.
It does get better, and the sense of accomplishment you feel at having managed to juggle it all while still remaining employed and with your sanity intact (sort of ) is enormous and can translate into a lot of confidence in the workplace that really helps your career take off afterwards.
Hang on in there. 
Thanks... And Dahlen, indeed, flippin hats off to single parents, that must be really bloody hard.
I can remember thinking before I had kids 'hmmm, there goes xparent again, off to some 'crisis''. Not judging but judging, iyswim. Now I know the truth!
Giving up work isn't an option financially anyway... But if it was I'd be sorely tempted, simply to avoid the juggle. I know this is a bit daft, but it does feel like the universe is messing me with me sometimes... It's like, really, universe? Chickenpox followed by childminder sickness followed by norovirus followed by strike action? REALLY? 
I look forward to the Latchkey Kid years (only half joking)
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