Last night DSis phoned to say she had had a physical fight with her dd and that dneice had tried to smash the windows whole other thread and asked if I could pick her ds up from school today. This fighting happens every 4/5 months.
Dsis dd normally picked him up while dsis was at work but after the fight dniece was refusing. Dsis told dneice (15) not to bother coming back after school if not.
I said I wouldn't mind. Dnephew is four in the summer.
I went and picked him up with dd (10 months) and for a while he was very good playing with dd. When I wouldn't let him play with my phone he went in a sulk and his behaviour got worse.
There is a lot of aggression in the house and dnephew has just soaked it all up. Dsis has had to go in school a few times.
He wouldn't let dd play with anything he 'might' want in a few mins and he wanted to read the song books by himself (did have a lovely voice I might add ) but pushed dd away at one point. She obviously thought it was a hoot which irritated him more. All this was manageable, he never has to share at home and basically has the run if of house, goes bed past midnight , wakes around 11am. It's not his fault though.
I went in to kitchen with dd, followed quickly by mil telling me to go get dnephew as he had just picked up dd rocking horse over his head and launched it across room! Mil thinks it was aimed for the tv. When I went back n to living room he was on the couch with the rocking horse on top of him. Laughing.
He tried to rip the baby gate of when his dad arrived to pick him up, which I did tell him off for , twice as he wouldn't stop.
Later when I tidied up, the rocking horse has been broke. 'twas lovely .
I decided not to gve Sis the full rundown as 1) she would completely minimise it as it's so normal for her, 2) I thought she was stressed enough as it is.
When she rang to say thanks and asked how he had been, I told her at start, he was fine gradually descending in to full on dnephew job. She was a nervous titter.
I asked is dneice was back.
Apparently dneice was always in, just sat in her room.
I asked what she had said to her...
"Oh I can't be arsed with it" was the reply.
I'm fucked off with that reply. I had to walk a friggin mile because her family is imploding and had to put up with dnephew being wreck it Ralph because she can't be arsed dealing with it.
We also had a very strange talk about him turning in to zombie but if you got a knife of a gun, you could stab him or shoot him in the head...then he would really be dead
She wasn't arsed about the full on fist fight or the window nearly going through, just the fact dneice said she wouldn't pick dnephew up.
I'm not doing it again.
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Dogearedrabbit · 19/03/2014 21:52
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