My son was born Jan 2013, and I had to move an hour away from my hometown to join my partner. He has a building business so it would not be financially viable for him into my house, as the cost of travelling everyday would have been too much.
My mum was very excited throughout my pregnancy and said she could not wait to be a grandma (first grandchild).
I visit my family at least once a week and because I don't drive, I have to get the train which costs me £20+ a time with train and bus fares.
Since my son has born, my mum has visited me twice. No other family members have visited me at all. I explained to her that I was feeling a bit isolated as I did not always have the money to jump on the train. She does not work and her partner has a good job, so they have access to a lot more disposable income than we do. I must add she is 43, with no health issues.
She arranged to come to visit us for the weekend, but arranged to stay in a B&B as she has two dogs and there is not enough room at our house. During this weekend, she visited me and my son for one hour each of the two days and spent the rest of the time with her boyfriend and dogs seeing the sights.
I get that I live an hour away, and she also has anxiety issues but she is often going for weekends away, and visiting her partner's family who live 3 hours away. She also recently travelled 3 hours to pick up a new puppy. Does anxiety work like that? That you can visit various places but not others? Sorry for my ignorance, genuine question. She has no issues with the town that I live in as far as I know.
I get that she can spend her time how she wishes, but am I being unreasonable to feel a little bit upset? I guess what upsets me the most is that my partner's mum died while I was pregnant, and missed out on the chance to meet her precious grandchild (she was very excited) and my own mum does not seem to make much of an effort.
When I tell my mum how I am feeling, she just says it's not her fault I chose to move 1 hour away.
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OscarandTimmy · 19/03/2014 21:50
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