DH and I had our PFB 2 months ago. We grew up in the same small town but now live about 30miles away.
Ever since DD was born not a single member of either family has came to visit us we always have to go to them. This wasn't bothering me too much until tonight. We both have grandparents where we grew up who can't really travel up to us so we are trying to go visit once a month, as I say the grandparents can't travel so that's fine but tonight hubby was on the phone to his mum who told him WE need to go visit his uncle with the baby. Uncle and his wife have no health issues that would stop them traveling to us, both drive etc and as im sure most of you know going anywhere with a new baby is a right hoo-haa so why should we be the ones that go to them? Best of it is we haven't seen his uncle in years!
Not only that not once has either set of parents came to visit, my mum has come half way to ours where I'll meet her with the baby and we go for lunch but my inlaws haven't even offered to come up to us. MIL cares for her ill father so on the face of it thats why but despite this they still manage to go visit my SIL and her son every week, SIL lives in the same town I go to to meet my mum, If they're already travelling that far up the road would it kill them to drive the extra ten miles? Or at least tell us they will be there so we only need to drive ten miles instead of 30?
When it comes to visiting hubby's uncle I'm ready to refuse, or at least not go out of our way to rush there IYKWIM. Would that be so unreasonable or should I just suck it up and go without complaining in real life
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To think it wouldn't kill people to come visit us for once?
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anothermrssmith · 13/03/2014 22:51
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