Ok, bit of background necessary!
Ds1 has had an ongoing problem where, essentially he keeps pooing himself, been going on for over a year, having investigations done, not sure whether problem is physical or mental :/
Ex and I split last August, he moved away to near Manchester (we are near Cornwall) so is really far away from the kids as neither of us have transport. He pays no maintainance and had seen them once at Christmas.
He had discussed a while ago the idea that he would take the kids for a week in the easter holidays to see them and also give me a break as I have been looking after them totally on my own since he left and I really need some time off. He was wanting me to travel with the kids on the train to London to meet him rather than travel to us to see them.
When I spoke to him today I said I couldn't bring them to London since the train line was broken in the storms and would require bus changes and add hours of journey time so he would have to come to us. Now he is saying that he will take Ds1 on his own up to Manchester to his place (where he is living with his new woman and her 2kids) because he wants to spend time alone with him to get his pooing problem under control.
Personally I think this is bullshit. I think he can't be arsed to take both of them and is trying to make excuses. Ds2 has ASD so can be quite challenging so him taking ds1 for a week will not really give me a break at all. Plus then ds1 would have to spend a week living in a strange woman's house in an area he doesn't know!
AIBU to be pissed off? I got the impression that if I didn't want to go along with this arrangement then he would not see them till summer :( I feel like he's using ds1's 'problem' as an excuse to not take both of them and in reality I don't think it would actually help at all!
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extremepie · 12/03/2014 23:54
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