To think that this would be an ok favour to ask?

[skinnyjeans778]

A friend of ours borrowed something months ago but lives nearly three hours away and due to a number of plans falling through neither us or them have travelled between us since.

Earlier I mentioned the item and said about having to make plans to see friend and get it back, he said 'oh jen (work colleague) is near there tomorrow' - I asked if she'd be able to bring it back for us and he said that's not why he brought it up and that he couldn't ask her to do that as she is going on her day off and he doesn't feel like he can ask her to do personal favours for him. Obviously if she has plans and couldn't do it I wouldn't expect her to go out of her way but I said we could get our friend to deliver it to her wherever she is in city and she could then take it to work the next day and give to dh. DH is refusing to ask her and says it would be weird but this is someone I've heard mentioned before, they are friendly-ish, obviously friendly enough that she has talked about her day-off plans with him and he has her personal mobile number so could text her.

Am I being unreasonable to ask him to ask her or is dh right and it's too much to ask a colleague?

[paxtecum]

Can he not post it back?
Or is it too big?

[skinnyjeans778]

I think he will have to but it's a bit awkward and fairly valuable so had been trying to avoid that

[littlebluedog12]

I would probably only ask a favour like that from a family member or good friend. If she's booked a day off to travel somewhere 3 hours away she obviously has plans and I wouldn't want to inconvenience her.

What is the thing? Surely you don't need it that desperately if you lent it to someone who lives that far away?

[MidniteScribbler]

If it's awkward and valuable, then YABU to expect her to carry it back for you.

[Minnieisthedevilmouse]

Right. He's not been bothered. U want it back. It's large ish and semi valuable.

Get off your backside and go get it.

[skinnyjeans778]

I know it's probably a bit unreasonable and I need to sort out getting it back myself just seemed like a good opportunity and Dh was annoying me by refusing to consider asking her.

Especially now as he's just let slip that the make up we had to trawl duty free for at xmas was for her

[BirthdayMuppet]

Drip feed of the century - your husband buys make up for other women?!

[skinnyjeans778]

Only just realised myself - he didn't buy it for her - she asked him to get it when we went away as apparently difficult to buy here. She gave him the money

[skinnyjeans778]

Anyone else?

[ChasbutnotDave]

There's no harm in asking her, if your husband did her a favour by getting the make up then maybe she'll be willing to help you.

[ILoveWooly]

If she was happy for him to buy her make up I am sure she could take a small package home with her if it was delivered to her at a suitable time.

[WooWooOwl]

I wouldn't ask someone a favour like that, even with the make up thing.

You don't really have to go out of your way to pick something up at duty free when you're in an airport anyway, so having to meet up with a complete stranger to pick something up in a random location is not comparable.

[bumperella]

I think is too big a favour to ask a colleague, even one yr DH is on friendly terms with. Picking up make-up at duty free is not as big a deal.

[blondefriend]

Is it just me who wants to know what it is?

[BrunoBrookesDinedAlone]

No problem with getting something as a favour to a friend - be it makeup or large expensive loaned items - but how on earth did you end up 'trawling duty free' for makeup which your husband was presumably searching for, without asking him who on earth it was for?? Or did he tell you it was for someone else?!

[DoJo]

A lot of it depends on her plans: is she on a date; going to stay with a friend whose address she might not want to give out to a stranger; travelling by public transport, so she might not want to cart anything extra with her; not at all sure about exactly where she will be; or doing something personal.

Unless he knows her plans fairly thoroughly, it's a pretty big favour to ask considering it could be a significant inconvenience to her and she might feel obliged to say yes annoyed to have been put on the spot. I wouldn't ask a colleague this and I can see why he wouldn't want to - he's the one who's got to work with her and he doesn't want to risk an awkward situation.

[vestandknickers]

Your DH is right. Sorry. It would be too cheeky to ask a colleague on her day off.

[milkysmum]

Goodness just tell us what the thing is that needs collecting!

[Elllimam]

:/ I would also think a bit cheeky sorry.