Scary SIL

[LucilleBluth]

I need a bit of perspective with regards to my crazy SIL. I won't go into too much detail but she is off the charts with her self centred behaviour, she lies at the drop of a hat and is totally self serving......it took me about 10 years to figure this out, but the crux of my problem is that I'm scared of her.

I have had my nephew who is the same age as my DS1 over at my house for the past however many weekends, I have lost count.....anyway, he was here last Friday, we took him home on Saturday and they boys were mithering to have DN over again.......I had work to do so I said no......I had bloody had him from pick up to 3pm Saturday....anyway, she said why don't My DSs go to her on Friday ( Today) well today has come and nearly gone and not a dicky bird, it really pisses me off when she lets the DCs down. My friend says I let her walk all over me, DH.....her brother says to just go no contact but they live around the corner and DS and DN go to school together, it's not that easy.

I would honestly be here all night if I were to list all of her shitty behaviour over the last 13 years.

Is it just me wanting to keep the peace or should I have said something about the sleepover thing.

[ProlificPenguin]

Have you contacted her about tonight's plan?

[CandyKate]

You need to be honest with her or it will eat you up. Dont be aggressive or angry, just say that the Dcs were very upset and disappointed.

I would try to keep her separate from the kids, as in make sure your DCs, who are cousins, have a good relationship, while keeping your distance from her as much as possible. Difficult I know, believe me...

[mynewpassion]

Did you say yes that ds can sleepover?

[LucilleBluth]

I said, and I quote ' the boys would love that'. I have been in contact with her all week. Every phone call and text is woe is me and I'm not exaggerating. The woman has such a privileged life, three healthy DCs, a huge house, a high earning DH who adores her but I have met people begging in the street who are more positive, she is so draining.

I rarely pull her up. The last time I dared challenge her opinion was when she was complaining about our DCs school. DN was struggling with Geography and she said well everyone knows that Georgraphy is shit and an easy option.....knowing full well that I did Geography A level becaus we had discussed it a few days prior.

[EurotrashGirl]

Why are you scared of her? Your post doesn't mention anything scary, only annoying.