To leave a note on the door of my student flat asking my flatmates to please keep their voices down when they get in tonight

[unhappystudent]

...because it will be after 3am when they do and I'm sick of being kept awake all night because I refuse to conform to clubbing and drinking just because 'that's what students do'? It would be polite.

Sorry for using this website, my mum isn't around to phone tonight and I wanted some advice.

[expatinscotland]

Silicon earplugs from Boots and a fan or other noise machine.

[LadyGardenersQuestionTime]

As long as it's a nice note and you have low expectations it's fine. But I'm afraid you are likely to get woken up even if they try to creep in quietly. Got some different people to live with next year?

[Forago]

I dont think you are being unreasonable, but I think they will think you're a bit of a square and a killjoy and will probably bitch about you in what they think are quiet voices but will be very loud. It depends how much this would bother you.

I think it is pretty pointless anyway as when you ask people who have been out on the lash to keep it down, even if they agree with you, they generally make more noise crashing around trying to be quiet anyway. Think I'd take the earplugs and changing to a house with more like-minded people route when you can.

[longingforsomesleep]

I don't really think it would do any good to be honest. People who come in very late after a heavy night's drinking tend not to realise how loud they are being. At best they're unlikely to take any notice and at worst they might think, 'well it's our flat too, we'll make as much noise as we want'.

It's unlikely to achieve anything I think, and you run the risk of souring relations with them. You're probably best tackling the subject when they're sober. Could you point out that you are quiet on a morning when they've had a heavy night so you don't disturb their lie in, so maybe they could be a bit more considerate to you when they come in after a night out?

Is there a room in the flat which might be quieter and, if so, would the owner swap with you do you think? If you're a first year student and in uni accommodation, is there anyone in charge of student welfare you could talk to to see if there is any chance of alternative accommodation?

I really do sympathise with you. I hate other people imposing their noise on me with a passion! My son's girlfriend is in her first year at uni and she is in a similar position to you. Apparently her room is next to the kitchen where everyone gathers when they come in after a night out.

I've always found wax earplugs from Boots more effective at blocking out sound than the silicone ones.

And, if there's no possibility of a room/flat swap to improve things, just keep telling yourself it's only for a few months. Presumably you can sort out something different for next year?

[ginbin54]

YANBU just a bit unrealistic. Do you have any like- minded friends you could flat share with next year? Presumably you have to stick with the current flat until the end of the academic year but you could find some quieter people for next time. I think earplugs are the only solution for now!

[Pumpkinpositive]

I'm sure I read this thread in the middle of the night (insomnia) and it was much longer then. . Wasn't there something about your flat mates tipping all your food out the window and leaving abusive notes for you?

Am I going mad?

[Flossyfloof]

I think a note like this would lead to great hilarity, causing you to be woken up either way. I am wondering why you are sharing with people who clearly enjoy very different pursuits from you? Your right to refuse to conform to what they do is equal to their right to go out clubbing and you sound a bit judgy to be honest and they are more likely to play up the noise as a result, I think. I understand that you are fed up about it though.
If anything I would have left a note saying something like "Hope you had a good time, gone to bed early, see you tomorrow". Don't think it is a good idea to crash around in the morning to teach them a lesson.

[betman]

I thinking asking them to keep it down will probably just cause conflict (and from my experience when I try and be quiet when drunk I just end up being more noisy).

If you're in student accommodation it is something you have to put up with in my opinion. Best bet is to find like minded people to live with next year (unless one of them gets a boyfriend and keeps you awake shagging him every night!!)

[Pumpkinpositive]

Phewwwww! not mad

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2012248-To-leave-a-note-on-the-door-of-my-student-flat-asking-my-flatmates-to-keep-their-voices-down-when-they-come-in

[Flossyfloof]

Oh.

[EEatingSoupForLunch]

Hope you're ok this morning OP? The other thread has some horrible details of bullying.