Hi all. First post on MN, and I apologise in advance for it being a bit heavy, but although I've looked in occasionally and read the forums, I've never joined until now. And now I'm looking for some advice.
I'm starting to have some concerns about my next door neighbour, she lives alone, and the thing is wasn't always a she.
She moved in next door a few years ago, and until recently she seemed fine, happy, chatty, etc. Have had many conversations about her gender reassignment, etc. She's always been happy talking about stuff very openly, and quite honestly despite the full surgery, hormone treatments, etc, is not a convincing woman at all. Not her fault, but at well over 6 ft and big built the transition was never going to be easy I suppose.
She works in what has always been regarded a a male dominated profession, but until a few months ago had always seemed happy. Then she moved place of work (same employer), and I don't think that was her choice. Suddenly she seems permanently down. Her commute distance has remained about the same so I don't think she's suddenly more tired.
Whilst we have had some frank conversations in the past it always feels uncomfortable prying as it were, as her personal circumstances are not exactly taboo, but you know what I mean.
My hubby has tried speaking to her as well, but anything more than a quick "alright" over the garden fence and the shutters come down. Hubby is not the best anyway for this sort of thing, he's just left the army having finished his 22 years and is probably best described as 'traditional' in his outlook. He does try, but it's quite obvious that he finds engaging our neighbour in conversation awkward.
It's difficult striking a balance between respecting her right to privacy over what are intensely personal issues, and being worried and imho good neighbours. Albeit before she moved next to us, but she has apparently self harmed before. I want to help, but not be over bearing.
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FrancineD · 28/02/2014 21:02
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