Growing up there was just me and my two alcoholic parents who if I'm honest gave me a truly awful childhood/life until I moved out at 17. Underneath it all they were great people but very damaged. My mam left when I was 12 though and my dad tried to hold the fort, working nights, minding me but also drinking a lot and shouting, wrecking the place, throwing me out etc.
They later got divorced and sold the house, split the money but almost as soon as the money hit their accounts my dad had a stroke and I looked after him but while he was recovering my mother got diagnosed with terminal cancer and the next day I found out I was pregnant. I looked after her then but myself and my dads siblings tried to convince him to buy a little place instead of squandering all his money away and paying rent but he wouldn't.
I had a little girl and my mam died 11 days later leaving me her half of the money and I vowed to use it for a home for me and my daughter and the following year I bought a little 2 bed and now two years later I'm 26 and mortgage free (but broke!)
My dad is renting a little bedsit and I had to take some stuff in for him that his brother was minding and I just felt racked with guilt that here I am set up for life technically with his money, while he's stuck in a little bedsit. I feel so sick and sad about it, I'm usually a hard nut but there was something pathetic about him leaving his worldly goods here. I wonder should I offer to share a room with DD and let him move in, though I don't think he'd like that either as he has a long term girlfriend who is also an alcoholic.
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To feel so sick, sad and guilty?
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DomesticDisgrace · 23/02/2014 21:45
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