to not want to give away all our baby clothes

[coolcookie]

Sil is about to have a baby. Dh wants us to bag up all our baby clothes and give to her. She can than keep what she likes and dispose of rest.
I am happy for her to have what she wants. However, I would like to be able to offer stuff to my nephews when they have dc. Or I wiuld like to sell some items as. I currently have no income. I do have access to joint account but it isn't the same. Plus her bil will probably pass on designer stuff whilst we have supermarket brands mainly.

[ChasedByBees]

That seems fair enough. Having access to the joint account should be the same though.

I think you could offer some to her (if she wants them, I have to admit I didn't want all the bags of clothes that arrived, I got far too many and I wanted to buy my own!) Has she indicated she wants any?

[Drgonzosattorney]

Been in this situation before! Given Hand me downs without a thanks to sil laws. Always have it in my head that I want to give it to people that deserve it most! I am constantly giving to relatives without any acknowledgement, call me negative but I'd rather give to charity any day!

[morethanpotatoprints]

Just tell this to your dh then.
I'm surprised he's interested in baby clothes, most men I know aren't that involved with who has what.
I don't think my dh has any idea what we did with our dcs baby clothes.

[balia]

Seems fine to me - I have kept a few of DS's clothes for sentimental reasons.

However (and I may be reading far too much into this) are your nephews just about to have DC's/in steady relationships and if you have no income and see this as a way of making some cash, why haven't you already? My DH can get a bit hoard-y sometimes and these are exactly the kind of excuses he would use! Maybe your DH just wants rid of some of the clutter.

[NormHonal]

Just give her some of it - seems fair enough to me.

We had loads of baby clothes (having been given lots as presents) and I was able to sell some of the best ones and split the rest between a couple of friends and family.

FWIW, unless they are good brands it's probably not worth selling them. And yes, you should have money from the joint account for you.

[coolcookie]

He does want to get rid of some. Clutter as long as that clutter isn't his lego or football programme s though. Yes I did start to sell some bits. We than had a surprise pregnancy so it was actually fortunate that I hadn't got rid of them all.
2 of my nephews are getting to the start a family stage. One has been married a few years and the other is settled and living together with a long term partner. They are not poor but I think it is much harder for young people starting out today as housing costs are so much higher.

[coolcookie]

Sil has also been given shedloads of new stuff from friends and family so probably doesn't even want our hand me downs.

[coolcookie]

We have a few good brands like gap, designers at debs etc which were gifts.

[HopeS01]

Do whatever you like

I'm planning on keeping a few special/sentimental items (the outfit he wears home from hospital, gifts from relatives etc), selling some (anything designer I wasted spent money on while I was bored on maternity leave), giving some away (my friends have already reserved some and my baby hasn't even been born yet)!

It's up to you!