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To think my 30's are going to be so much better than my 20s?

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MarchingFrog Sat 11-Jan-14 22:19:14

I am turning 30 soon. I am receiving a lot of sympathy, as well as the occasional "still single, I see" and even one "past 34, babies are pretty much a no go"!

Even those people who are not baby obsessed seem to feel that my youth has come to an end and it is all downhill now. The dye of my life is cast and I have to put up with it.

Thing is, I am really looking forward to the next few years. Whether I find true love, or not, or have a baby, or not - I feel much happier at this stage of my life than I ever have before.

In my 20's I was generally insecure and stressed. I was constantly trying to climb the next greasy pole and please people who I didn't necessarily like, only because I was too unsure to do anything else.

Now, it feels different. I know myself and who I want to be. I will not needlessly spend time doing things that do not make me happy. I have a job that I enjoy, but I have realised that my real ambition is to be a comedy writer. I am going to do everything I can to achieve that goal.

I have a little more disposable income, which I fully intend to spend doing things I want to do, if or until I have a family. I really feel like the next few years could be some of the most satisfying of my life.

I know that everything is circumstance dependent -but I would love to hear people's experiences of life post 30!

janey68 Sat 11-Jan-14 22:23:07

YANBU. I felt a lot happier in my 30s and many people I know felt the same. A lot of people spend their 20s getting established in their career which often comes with tough patches. By my 30s I felt a lot more confident and established professionally. I had bought my first home and met DH. Life felt more secure without having lost any of the excitement. I went on to have children in my 30s, and did so from that secure base of knowing that I'd already achieved a lot of my goals.

Honestly- 30s are way better

cees Sat 11-Jan-14 22:29:52


At the grand old age of 31 I finally managed to orgasm on my own, twas magical [big grin] My 30's are brilliant.

cees Sat 11-Jan-14 22:30:17

I meant grin

sittingagain Sat 11-Jan-14 22:33:23

30's are miles better (although I was constantly knackered,).

I am actually enjoying my 40's even more. grin

Impatientwino Sat 11-Jan-14 22:36:15

My 30s are so much better than my 20s!! In my 30s I met my DH, married him and had my lovely DS.

Don't listen to anyone, live your own story.

clara26 Sat 11-Jan-14 22:46:03

I got divorced lost my job and my home in my 20s. Now at 32 I'm successfully self employed have a gorgeous dp three cats and am TTC.

The main difference however is that I am more confident and secure.

Your thirties are awesome.

flowerpotgirl12 Sat 11-Jan-14 22:51:21

I am so much more settled and content in my 30s than I ever was in my 20s. 20s were full of angst, drama and not really knowing what I was doing. I actually feel like a grown up now (sort of)

Enb76 Sat 11-Jan-14 22:55:44

Your 30's are so much better than your 20's. Revel in it. I'm rather looking forward to my 40's. Only a few years to go.

Fakebook Sat 11-Jan-14 22:56:06

Yanbu! I turned 30 last year in March and this past year has been by far the most enlightening year of my life. I've learnt how to handle rude people in my life and make myself happy and just be happy with who I am and what I have and don't give a shit anymore about what other people may say or think.

Mitchell2 Sat 11-Jan-14 22:59:50

YANBU. At 29, was divorced, not hope for meeting anyone else, having to start financially from scratch (as lost money/home in divorce) and was a bit miserable and unhappy.

At 34, married again (much to my surprise!), pregnant with first child and have much more confidence that I ever had.

Agree with the others - 30's so far are better than 20's

Beatrixemerald Sat 11-Jan-14 23:28:07

30's totally kick ass, I was also single at 30, now35 and pg with dc1 I can honestly say everything started to fall into place in my 30's in all sorts of exciting ways, you'll love ir!

sunshinemmum Sat 11-Jan-14 23:47:23

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PansOnFire Sat 11-Jan-14 23:53:47

I cried on my 30th birthday, I was distraught. I was sad to leave my partying 20s behind.

I'm now 32 and having the most amazing time, much better than my 20s. A time I thought I was happy, I've come to realise, was a time when I was horribly insecure, relied on going out to clubs to have a social life and a time when work was bloody hard work. In my 30s I'm much more relaxed, confident and secure. Many of my clubbing friends are still going but they don't even bother with me since I had a few nights in, I also met my DH.

Your 30s will be amazing, I'd never go back to my 20s even if I was given the choice.

scantilymad Sun 12-Jan-14 00:17:35

From another angle as someone who is married with a baby and turning 30 in less than two weeks, YANBU! I can't wait I see what 30+ brings. It's all one big adventure. However I do have friends of a similar age who are terrified of going "over the cliff". Depends on the personality.

Joysmum Sun 12-Jan-14 00:36:41

Every year, my life is better than the year before and I'm 40 now.

I've not been phased by turning 20/30/40, but when I got to 25/35 it hit me that I was closer to being 30 or 40 than I was to 20 or 30 and that freaked me a bit.

OwlinaTree Sun 12-Jan-14 00:42:17

30s definately better, but 20s were good too!

OwlinaTree Sun 12-Jan-14 00:43:32

And load of cobblers about babies past 34! What a rude person to say that!

BOFtastic Sun 12-Jan-14 00:45:00

Honestly, your 30s are the prime of your life. You are wise, and still HOT!

Devora Sun 12-Jan-14 01:12:07

30s is a brilliant time of life. Way better than your 20s. Enjoy it!

needaholidaynow Sun 12-Jan-14 08:59:34

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Farrowandbawl Sun 12-Jan-14 09:04:25

30's are much better than my 20's.

I'm single and loving every single second of it.

I own my house and doing it up the way I want to.

I'm starting a new direction in life now I finally know what I want to do with it.

I'm have more confidence in myself, I stand up for myself more, I'm much happier than I have been in a long time.

and the best bit? I'm only 3 years into it and with another poster saying her 40's are is looking really, really good at the moment.

gemdrop84 Sun 12-Jan-14 09:49:32

Im turning 30 this year and looking forward to it. Over the last year I have become less bothered by things, have more confidence and just generally chilled out. I've always been quite an anxious worrier type so it's nice how I seem to be mellowing out!

middleclassdystopia Sun 12-Jan-14 09:51:03

So far my thirties have been better than my twenties. I'm more confident, know who I am. Have faced my demons (abusive family).

I'm a bit nervous about 40 but I know it's just a number. With age comes more wisdom and experiences.

BecauseIsaidS0 Sun 12-Jan-14 09:57:06

Oh honey, I can't even being to tell you how much better my 30s were than my 20s. My 20s were full of drama and insecurity. When I turned 30 I told myself eff this, now I'm going to make myself happy. So I travelled, I changed jobs, it bought my own flat...I stayed resolutely single throughout most of that decade, and then when I least expected it I met a wonderful man and got married at 39. I can't wait to see what my 40s will bring! grin

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